7/26/08

Over 40? Still Have Fun In The Dating Scene!

By Pam Baldwin

For men who have reached that plateau of 40 years old, the prospect of finding someone to marry, have a family with, and ultimately settle down may seem like a big stretch if they haven't started down that road. Although it may seem daunting, the reality is that even guys who have reached forty aren't completely rejected - in fact, many men today over forty meet wonderful women and actively date on a regular basis.

Even though they get just as nervous as any other guy, these men go full speed ahead, not even thinking of their anxieties. There are some helpful tips for men over 40 who want to find that special someone, or who just want to date, these tips are important in today's society.

One tip is to use online dating, although this usually how the younger crowd meets other singles, there are many in the over 40 category who would love to meet someone as well. Of coarse, you may be tempted to see the profiles of beautiful young college girls, but be realistic, and try to find someone who's personality matches your own.

For those that are serious about finding someone special to share a long term relationship with, there are great sites on the internet, like eHarmony, that allow people to be matched up based on their personalities to give you a better chance of finding someone that might suit your fancy. Ultimately, this means that you'll have to ensure you're honest about who you are, which may be scary for an older man. Being honest and forward about who you are when searching for that special someone can make all the difference between finding someone who makes you happy and someone that is a great fling but nothing more.

Of course, one of the greatest dating tips for men over 40 is to be confident when on a date with a young woman. Even though you might be a little older than the woman you're out with, acting youthful is still a definite turn on for young women. Being a little playful in conversation, acting a little immature while still maintaining a fairly gentlemanly and dignified presence can add a little mystique to your personality, which can pique a woman's interest. A little bit of playful banter, or maybe a mischievous comment or two to set a romantic mood can create a loose atmosphere and help a woman feel more comfortable around you.

Of course, the same major hurdle that men face as a youth still rears it's head even into your forties - listening to a woman. This is one of the more overlooked dating tips for men over 40 because you probably have more of a mindset to be active and a talker and less of one to be idle and a listener. No matter what age, you still need to be actively engaged in conversation and actively listening to your date. Being able to hold conversation and respond to her comments can certainly increase a woman's level of interest in you.

Please don't act like a father, or guardian when you are out on a date. Many men over 40 make the mistake of acting paternal and protective out of pure instinct, treating a date like a daughter not a possible romantic interest. Try to act like you are twenty years old again, and see how she reacts to you, and in turn how different your actions will be.

For men over 40 there are many tips on dating, wether it's over the Internet,books or advice columns and these are just a few examples to think about when wanting to get out there on the dating scene. Always remember as a man over 40, be yourself and be true, and you will be surprised on how well you will do.

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