Realizing When To End Asking

By Alyssa Villame

Having a husband is one of the gratifications in life. Not only does it secure your life with a relationship, it actually gives you a sense of control toward a life of full bliss that others may not be able to have. Mostly true when you have a brilliant partner, getting married may have been the most perfect thing that happened to your life.

But having a consistent company means also making a lot of mistakes. Your self-assurance mostly extends to you personal needs that you think your husband can give. This makes you ask for things more than your practically requires. While you may feel multiple momentary satisfactions, it would not last especially if your husband ends up divorcing you for that reasons.

Going for luxurious things that only satisfy your eye are just one of the manifestations of asking. Evaluate what you are asking for and ask yourself if you can live without it. Did you just like it out of jealousy because your neighbor has one? Or are you asking too much that it would hurt the budget.

It is obvious to spot these things but it is hard to stop from doing it. Like a drug, some luxury turns into vices that only make you constantly crave, as if nothing else would satisfy your cravings. Getting an expensive bag with an amount equivalent to two months of electric bills, for example, is really out of the question.

Unless you are a genie who can easily wish for materials things with just a instant, there isn't really any reason to ask for it even if you are a multi-millionaire. Money is not sand that lands in your floor without you laboring for it. Even if you have all the dollars, you and your partner will still need to make efforts to make sure that finances stays with you.

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How To Choose An Engagement Ring

By Adriana Noton

Buying the right engagement ring for the love of your life can be stressful. You may think you won't find the one she really wants, but don't worry. These are some great tips to help you find it.

The size is important to know. It can be hard to tell this unless you can find a ring she already owns and steal it away while you go shopping. If you can take with you a friend or family member that is a similar height, weight and size. If you're still not sure, buy a larger size so she can have it made smaller, that's an easy fix.

Try to think if your fiance has given you any hints as to what she wants, because she probably has. If not, try to bring along a female friend or family member that knows her well. Second, don't be discouraged about the taste you have. You know your fiance well, think about the clothes she loves to wear, that is a good starting point. Once you start looking you will be able to get a feel for how she'll like each one, you will know when you've found the right ring.

If your fiance wears jewelry often, look at the color of the metal and take note. Her ring should probably be the same color. Jewelry comes in gold, white gold, rose gold and platinum. Platinum and white gold are a silver look alike, but higher quality than sterling silver jewelry. Rose gold is a darker, richer color than gold, similar to a brass or copper color.

Jewelry is often mostly adorned with diamonds. Some cultures choose to have the engagement ring be a center diamond with two of her birthstone gems on the side in a smaller size. It symbolizes blessings to the couple. Also look for rings like a center blue sapphire or gem framed in diamonds, it is a popular style and may be something your fiance would like. Before you shop figure out her favorite color and her birthstone as this may help you pick.

Square stones are also called emerald, cushion or princess cuts. A round stone is popular, a stand alone center diamond is called a solitaire style and is most popular. There is also the marquis cut which is an oval shape that is pointed at each tip and regular rounded oval shaped stones.

Budget for the ring can also be a huge factor in decision making. Remember platinum is usually the more expensive metal, choose yellow or white gold. Spending money on a piece with 1 carat of smaller diamonds is probably a better bet, you can find a half carat or so center stone with the rest of the carats being detail around the center stone. Go for detail with gemstones and or smaller diamonds for beauty without the big price.

Remember when buying the engagement ring is it important to keep in mind how your fiance will view it. You are buying this to show your love to her, that is the most important thing, not diamonds or money.

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Discover 1 Shockingly Common Thing That Many Wives Do That Pushes Their Partners Away

By Sarah Scott

Were you aware that how you're feeling about yourself is the #1 ingredient to living a very content and satisfying life? No, it isn't the people or the objects in your life that creates happiness. People who feel most satisfied and happy outside their marriage sometimes feels good about the present state their marriage is in.

You and your hubby were happy once, right?

At one time, when your relationship with your other half started to worsen, something shifted. It wasn't your feelings for each other, it wasn't what you both did or failed to do together. It was stress that contributed to the state of your relationship with your partner. When stress came into your lives, it caused negative and toxic emotions.

What you want to do is change how you feel about yourself from the inside out. I'm not saying, changing your physical appearance, although it may help raise your level of confidence. What I mean is you need to find your self-worth. How do you feel about yourself at this moment? You most likely lack self worth, you do not know if your hubby loves you and you're feeling unattractive within.

Find how you can calm your mind , find your center and feel empowered. Feel empowerment to shift your life, your relationship with your man and the love you're feeling for yourself. When you feel love from the inside out, you become radiant. And this is what gets you your man back. Beauty from the inside out.

When a woman feels beautiful from the inside out, she pulls people to her.

So question the is, how do you get that special "something" to light you up from the inside out?

What you choose to concentrate on will impact your perception in life and your emotions. Others who feel bad or have any form of negative emotions is actually because they are focusing on what they don't want.

You know those people, who always see their cups half full instead of half empty...these people odds of living a happier and fuller life are a hundred times bigger than those who don't see life that way.

Instead of concentrating on it raining outside and how it's dampening your mood, concentrate on how it's possible for you to enjoy a quiet or comfortable day at home with your family. Instead of focusing on what you don't want, concentrate on something positive in your life.

Create a appreciation journal and write down what you're thankful for today. Perhaps this is something that you and your hubby can do together, before you guys head off to bed each night, tell each other what you are thankful for that day.

With constant effort and practice, you both can be well on your way to seeing that the grass isn't greener on the opposite side of the fence, but greener on your side as well.

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What Makes Men Self-indulgent?

By Ron Duphin

My other half, Hope, once asked me, "What do you do for me that isn't attached to anything else?" Just me.

Well.

If you are tempted to feel like Hope's question is selfish in nature, you really should know that Hope does more with me in mind "just me "than I can list in this short post. She's not self-absorbed. She also knows when she wishes something and asks for it. On top of being a giving, caring partner, she also knows how to speak up.

At any rate, if you can't answer Hope's question as applied to your own relationship, perhaps you need to express the caring part of you more of the time and consider whether you are being selfish. This is what I'm working on. My life coach, Nancy Slocum, helped me today to confirm that the issue isn't whether or not I care for or love my wife, but how I express it. Do I express my caring consistently? How so? Do I express it in a way that Hope resonates with?

Through the training session I also bumped into two insights into what makes men selfish (translated: how I make myself selfish). Here they are:

Emotional Resistance. Doing for others does occur to me. I'll be sitting at my desk typing away and the thought will come: I could do X for Hope. Or: It would be nice if I got up and did the dishes now. Then, back to typing. I feel the resistance to extending myself settle in like an emotional net that constricts my awareness and keeps me focused on what I want to do rather than what I'd like to do for others. You could call this self-justification. You could just call it slackness.

Pessimism. What's the point? Life can never be so amazing that we all live in joy with each other anyway. I can just do what I desire and let the chips fall where they may. Most things end in failure and life ends in death, hence why make the effort? This drastic line of thinking is perilous for relations, I know. A large amount of men carry such pessimism and its a perfect reason to not care about vital elements of your life. Are you able to face it inside yourself?

Lack of Vision. Nancy asked me today, "Mike, what is your goal or vision for your marriage?" You know, I've been studying and teaching NLP and personal growth for over 20 years and it never ceases to dazzle me how I am able to always find areas in my life where the elementals are lacking. I can't say that I have got super clear about on a vision for my primary relationship. Fantastic! Opening to the chance of creating a positive vision for wedding and moving towards it is currently a manifest necessity, whereas I suppose prior to today I was inspired by merely avoiding the negative outcomes by default. This opens a whole new world of likelihood.

Deserving. As I express my caring more predictably and in ways which Hope resonates with, I can rationally expect to get more caring in exchange. Do I merit it? I had never considered that question before Nancy asked it today. My co-worker Jake Eagle used to remind me that I can create anything I want in my life. If I want mates, I can focus in being a good friend. If I want to earn more cash, I'm able to start to create top value for folks. If I want more Xmas presents, I'll begin giving more.

Making more isn't complicated. Give more and you may receive more. Feeling like you merit more is a fascinating phenomenon to think about as a motivating factor.

Those are my thoughts on what makes men selfish. Now I want to stop typing

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Ron Duphin offers NLP verification at iNLP Center, an NLP coaching online resource.

Online Dating Profiles: Examples Of What To Include

By Michael Kendricks

Ever wondered what to write in your online dating profile? I know I used to. In fact I would rack my brain for days trying to come up with something good. Through the years, and after many fails, I started to understand what type of profiles allow you to get more response from women. I want to share those examples of what to include in your online dating profile in this article.

Now, I would bet anyone who knows what they're talking about can tell you that you have to stand out from the tons of other men sending emails to women. Many may not tell you exactly how to do that however. Mr. Joe Blow, who talks about his affinity for lizards and snakes all through his profile will stand out, but not in the way he wants to.

So clearly you want to stand out in a good way. If you write something that women will remember about you, you will come across as an actual human rather than just words on a screen. If you follow the steps below in a well written way you will be someone she wants to respond to, and eventually meet.

Now let's go ahead and get into examples of what to write in your online dating profile.

Passions

You will get many more responses if you include something your passionate about in your dating profile. As long as it's not something generally considered really weird, like collecting Star Wars figures, it will make your profile much more exciting. Thus making it more likely to catch a woman's eye, or convince her to respond to your email.

Communicate Positive Qualities

This includes showing women you are well adjusted and have a sense of humor. Also that you are confident and have a busy life with a bunch of things going on in it.

Now, anyone can think of a list of great characteristics and write it in a dating profile, but if it really shines through by the way you write your profile it will be much more effective. For example, stating clearly why you're on the dating website, what you're about and what you're looking for will make you appear confident. So will leaving out any wishy-washy or insecure comments like "I don't know what to write on this thing". The effect of confident writing will be much better than simply stating you're confident.

Write Descriptively

Most profiles that I've seen tend to be an outline of general interests and adjectives. It makes for a very generic and boring profile to read. What's more interesting is to pick a few things and really expand on them.

If you're a bit of a chef you can describe some of the things you've cooked recently or what you'd like to make soon.

Giving a woman a picture of what you're like in her mind stands out much more than a list of qualities that may or may not be true about you. You really don't have to go too crazy here because a descriptive profile will automatically stand out among the others out there that are 95% crap.

Keep It Light

Remember to keep it positive, light and playful. This doesn't mean you can't include anything serious but keep the overall mood light.

Remember this is your first impression. If you were to meet someone out at a bar and they started unloading all this serious stuff about world hunger and their dying cat in the first minute, you'd probably be turned off as well.

This is that initial communication. It's that first minute or two in a bar or a grocery store. If you can effectively keep it light and playful for now, you will probably be someone she wants to get to the serious stuff with...EVENTUALLY.

Use Appropriate Grammar and Spelling

Would you be shocked to discover that many women will instantly dismiss your profile if you have bad grammar and spelling? Well, it's true.

Now some are definitely more anal about it than others. The women that are super uptight about it, like the ones that have a spaz attack if you don't use the apostrophe on the word "its", probably are best to avoid anyway. Yes, I did just say "spaz attack".

However, spelling things right and utilizing the basics of good grammar are still very important to most women. So yeah, you need to use all those annoying little periods and commas. A spell check would be a nice touch as well.

I can guarantee you will start seeing better results from women online when you include these elements in your online dating profile.

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You should have a good foundation now for what to write in your online dating profile, however knowing what to leave out is just as important. Be sure to read Michael Kendrick's Online Dating Profile Tips for that information and check out Get More Dates Online for more helpful articles about online dating.