8/9/08

Ways Of Winning Back Your Lover

By Allison Thompson


There comes a time in everyone's life where they loose someone that they love due to a break up. Break ups can be hard on both parties; of course this always depends on the situation. We all know that relationships are kind of like children, to grow they must be nurtured. You have to give love and attention to your partner if you want him or her to stick around.

Sometimes when a relationship ends one or both parties want to get the other person back. However, it is best in most cases just to take a step back and let things be the way they are, for now anyway. Sometime agreeing that the breakup is for the best and using a little bit of reverse psychology is the best way to get your love back into your life. Basically act like the breakup is a positive step towards building a better future.

Certainly the worse thing any woman can do when trying to win back her lover is to act all need. As the old saying goes "no one needs the needy". By acting all clingy and showing you are unable to let them go is the quickest way to further alienate your lover from you than they already are. Yes dealing with a break up from someone who has meant a lot to you can be extremely difficult but if you have to cry and scream then do it behind closed doors.

When trying to rebuild a broken relationship you should close the doors on communication. This may seem like a bad thing to do considering communication is the key to having a successful relationship but when trying to mend a broken romance this is for the best. Having little to no contact with your love is for the best; the other person may just need a break. Once the break is over with and they see how much they miss you they will come back, if that is what is meant to be.

Do not, for any reason, sulk around the house and be lonely. You need to get out and have some fun with your friends. They always say laughter is the best cure for anything that ails you, including a broken heart. You do not have to date, you do not even have to have anything to do with someone, who could possibly be a love interest, just go out with your friends and be happy.

Also it is important that you don't try to be someone you aren't, even if it may be appealing to your lover. Who you are is what attracted your lover to you in the first place, so why change it now. There are going to be times in a relationship when one or both of you are going to become bored with the other and need a change because they have forgotten the reason why they fell in love with each other in the first place. It is important that you learn to like who you are and find ways of accenting those qualities which your lover found so endearing initially.

However, in the end it really is up to your lover whether they want to get back with you or whether the break up becomes permanent. Remember you can never force someone into loving you or to keep on loving you. In fact love is a very powerful emotion and something that one should not be toying with.

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How to Get Your Ex Back: Methods You May Not Be Aware Of

By Ricardo d Argence


It becomes very hard when your loved one decides to leave the relationship. Because it requires two individuals to create and maintain a relationship, there are no certainties. A break up is likely if one person in the relationship is too giving or too selfish and things becomes one sided. If you are willing to put forth some effort, and you wish to save the relationship, there are solutions that can do that.

As tough as it may sound, you need to be the stronger one. Do not try to make the other person come back to you through pathetic begging or desperate attempts to revive the love you lost. The only thing you will succeed will be to drive your ex even farther from you. Also, to show a strong attitude will be a signal to the whole world that you can cope with the situation with your head up. It serves you well, too. There is no need that everybody knows that you feel lonely and desperate inside.

It is preferable to minimize contact with your ex. Use this time apart to think about what went wrong and reflect about these things. It is not only you that thinks about what happened to the relationship. Your ex will do that, too, and maybe good things can come from this break.

By any means, do not try to scare off your ex. Do not act according to your impulses of kicking your partner out. Instead, be flexible and try to understand that the breakup happened because something was not to his or her liking. On the other hand, do not let yourself trapped in being the one conceding to everything, but do your part in building up the channels of communication.

Even though you do not have a partner, you are not necessarily alone. Remember that you still have your friends, and they can be important in giving you reasons to get out and about. It's not the end of the world, so go out and enjoy yourself.

Always think about your qualities and don't forget who you are. You are that special person that you were even if you are no longer in a relationship, just the fact that your ex loved you is proof of this. Some things did change, and some things did not, but you should always remember what makes you unique. Being self confident and having a positive self image will have a positive result on other's impression. Don't be afraid of being yourself!

As long as you have the right attitude, there is a good chance that your ex will return. It's worth it if you really want it even though it might take time and much determination. Be prepared to get your ex back.

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