2/10/11

How Do You Get An Ex Back With You

By Pete Diwali


One of the most difficult episodes to have to face in life, is the break up of a long term relationship. Whether it has been two, four, six, eight years, or longer, the fabric of your very soul can feel as if it has been physically ripped from your chest. How do you get an ex back into your life? Here are some options, you can weigh, to see if that possibility is within your grasp.

You have decided you want to have your ex again with you. But, stop for a minute and think; does he, or she, want you in the picture, once more? It makes no sense to put so much effort into something, if nothing will come to fruition. Do not give yourself too much pain by getting your hopes to high. There is nothing wrong with hard work, but not if the pain will be unbearable.

Take responsibility for what you did to provide fuel that terminated the coupling. It takes two people to break the foundation, which built the relationship, primarily. Do not think you have no blame! Get down off your high horse, and figure out what went wrong, on your part. This gives you insight about yourself; when you are truthful.

Write down the pros, and cons, about who you are in a committed union. Maybe you talk too much, or not enough? Do you have a belittling personality, always complaining about everything? Maybe you are too touchy, always needing assurance, and this provided a wedge between the two of you. You might just seem not to care, to the other individual. Can you face the truth about yourself?

It can never be said, read, or written, enough that compromise is a big issue in partnerships. This does not mean you have to set aside your principles. You should be able to express yourself, without feeling you do not have the right. However, does it really matter that he does not like the kitchen curtains, or that she can not stand all your sports programs?

Envy is an emotion that we will feel sometime in our lives. We can not escape the grabbing power of this horrible feeling. We want to lash out as those who cause it to make an appearance within our souls. It can, and will, cause troubles inside any relationship. Get rid of it quickly, and try to keep it at bay so much as possible.

No amount of changes can do anything if the ex you want, does not desire you. This is simply the way of the world. Only death and taxes are guaranteed in this life. Try to alter what you can, and hopefully it will all work out.




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