4/6/11

The Cost And Reward Theory To Win Your Ex-Lover Back

By Maria M. Suiter


Are you going through a difficult patch in your relationship or a break up? Do you want to have another go at it and have your ex back? It may actually look like a very tall order, come to think of it. This article is able to give you the advice you need on how to get your ex to give you another chance.

In order to get your ex back, you will need the correct mindset. Quit fixing your eyes on the negative issues and start looking for ways to address the problems and have a better relationship once you get your ex back.

There is what is called "cost and reward theory". This means whenever two people start a relationship, each side wants to see the cost and rewards.

Think about this, when the rewards are heavier than the costs, there is the big chance that they will stay in the relationship. It is vice versa with when a person wants to quit the relationship, it means this person thinks that the costs outweigh the rewards and so they do not want to lose anymore.

You can see from this argument that the partners need to work hard at adding more value to their union. It will make your friend more interested and be able to also reciprocate by doing the right things to keep the fire burning.

Here then it the point where you should be asking: what is the role each partner should play to add more value to the partnership? Values such as trust, loyalty, security and happiness are very important so you must work on them seriously.

After this you need to consider the costs in the relationship. These may need that you make a few changes on your side. Look at the lifestyle, personality and attitude you have.

When you use cost and reward theory to evaluate the relationship, you will be able to maintain a good and warm relationship when eventually you get back with your ex.




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