5/21/11

5 Easy Ways To Get Your Life Back After A Breakup

By Steve Steiner


Has your girlfriend told you to take a hike? It's a sorry thing and you probably just want to move on. Take a look at the following. You'll find ways to give yourself a boost. Sure, it's going to be tough for awhile, but adhering to these ideas will help you get back in the groove. Besides, if you just keep throwing yourself a pity party, nobody's going to attend except miserable you.

Get Over a Relationship Breakup Technique #1: Your first positive step will be to eliminate any form of communicating with your ex. Don't email your ex anymore. Don't ever call her. Don't even drop her a postcard. Hearing her voice and mooning over her, isn't going to stop unless you stop all forms of communication. What could be more depressing than seeing her move on while you pile on the self-pity. It will be best for you, and for her, the more space you put between you.

Get Over a Relationship Breakup Technique #2: Next, you need to purge your life and surroundings of anything that reminds you about her. When it comes to your environment, remember the old adage: Out of sight, out of mind. Toss or put in a box anything that reminds you of her. Don't hold onto any of her things like a fetish. Give them back to her. Absolutely do not give them to her personally. Do whatever it takes to get them to her, but not personally.

Get Over a Relationship Breakup Technique #3: Your third step is to get out of the house or apartment. Call up old friends to renew old ties, or find some new friends. Misery hates company. So, if you curl up alone, you'll be miserable. You've a myriad avenues open. Don't forget old buddies. Spend more time with your brothers and sisters, parents and grandparents. They can even give you advice on how to get over the mess, how to heal.

Get Over a Relationship Breakup Technique #4: Diminishing the opportunity for pain is your fourth step. You need to find something that will shift the focus of your life. "Get a hobby." might sound like a feeble bit of advice, but a hobby can lead to a more fulfilling life, introduction to new friends, and some hobbies have become lucrative avenues for building self-esteem. Why waste time on misery when the world abounds with opportunities for growth?

Get Over a Relationship Breakup Technique #5: Choose to move on. And move on with forgiveness. That is your fifth step to getting over a relationship. Cut your ex some slack. Cut yourself some slack, so you can move on. Those are good ways to keep your life from bitterness and failure. Face it, it's over. Now be positive. Look up. Look about. Think of the future. That's the best way to cure pain. If you want your life to continue to be negative, hold a grudge against your ex. But, you don't want that. Forgive. Forgiveness is important. You don't know what the future will hold. You may get back with your ex. Why eliminate the possibility? Even if you don't, moving along without bitterness can only be good.

Following these steps should help you through the tough time of a breakup. Always remember, muscles worked are healthy muscles. Treat your breakup as a way to workout the muscles of your self-esteem and self-improvement.




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