Why do people use Adult Dating sites? There are so many of them that they must be popular. If you browse through one, you'll see they have millions and millions of members. The masses of people attracted to adult dating sites so massively outnumber regular dating sites, they make the regulars look like minority groups in a sexually focused world.
But the behavior at adult dating sites don't reflect the day to day behavior of people in society. People typically don't go straight to sexual relations. They date, get to know the person, and it progresses from there. So why are these sites so popular?
Clearly the dating site "profile" plays a big part in this. It gives us anonymity from the people we are communicating with, and the rest of the world, till we build a level of trust. As such, the exposure to rejection and pain associated with such rejection is much less on the internet than in real life. Ie. There is very little opportunity for public humiliation. But does this allow people to be more direct, courageous and honest about chasing their sexual desires? Is "under the cloak of darkness" a very real factor here?
If so, it will be interesting to see in coming years, whether the adult dating phenomena will have any impact on society. For example, will the new "honesty" skills we learn on these types of websites translate into "honesty" skills in social situations.
How will dating evolve? Will flirting and good manners gradually disappear, to be replaced by a more direct form of communication. A direct question followed by a direct answer, all based on a courage born from a loss of sensitivity to rejection.
Or could it change things in the opposite direction? Will the fear of rejection in public become more acute, for its absence on the internet? If so, will the next generation of daters be more averse to socializing and meeting people outside websites?
Sometimes I spend quite sometime thinking about such things. For now though, I'll put those thoughts aside. There are over 30 million people at this new website I just joined, thats a lot of people to meet, I am going to be busy.
But the behavior at adult dating sites don't reflect the day to day behavior of people in society. People typically don't go straight to sexual relations. They date, get to know the person, and it progresses from there. So why are these sites so popular?
Clearly the dating site "profile" plays a big part in this. It gives us anonymity from the people we are communicating with, and the rest of the world, till we build a level of trust. As such, the exposure to rejection and pain associated with such rejection is much less on the internet than in real life. Ie. There is very little opportunity for public humiliation. But does this allow people to be more direct, courageous and honest about chasing their sexual desires? Is "under the cloak of darkness" a very real factor here?
If so, it will be interesting to see in coming years, whether the adult dating phenomena will have any impact on society. For example, will the new "honesty" skills we learn on these types of websites translate into "honesty" skills in social situations.
How will dating evolve? Will flirting and good manners gradually disappear, to be replaced by a more direct form of communication. A direct question followed by a direct answer, all based on a courage born from a loss of sensitivity to rejection.
Or could it change things in the opposite direction? Will the fear of rejection in public become more acute, for its absence on the internet? If so, will the next generation of daters be more averse to socializing and meeting people outside websites?
Sometimes I spend quite sometime thinking about such things. For now though, I'll put those thoughts aside. There are over 30 million people at this new website I just joined, thats a lot of people to meet, I am going to be busy.
About the Author:
Jayde Johanssen, bemused by the cult following of adult dating sites, ponders if the phenomena will impact our way of life. Unique version for reprint here: Adult Dating Websites - An Historically Significant Event Maybe?.
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