10/13/11

The Secrets Men Need to Know About Romance

By Debbie Gerber


It might seem that even after your best efforts at what you feel is "being romantic" that you just don't get the response that you expected. You probably watched a movie or overheard someone say what to do to be romantic or maybe how to kiss a women for a romantic kiss and you went and did just that and your someone special laughed or turned up her nose. She might not even have liked what you did. It might have turned out so bad that she was turned off by your romantic efforts. Don't give up!

Here are some sure fire romance tips that will get you put into the romantic hero category where your woman if concerned. Find out what is romantic to her. Not every girl likes the same thing.

1) Does she love flowers or hate them. If flowers are her romantic turn on, what kind? Even if flowers mean romance to her she might not like roses even though roses are supposedly the flower of romance. Make giving her flowers worth the effort, give her the kind of flowers that will resonate with her soul. I know my daughter in law doesn't care for flowers but she loves going for a walk with her hubby. So make sure you know your gals preference. That is how to be romantic.

2) If you have been together for a while do you have a special song, a song that she equates with your love. If she does be sure to point it out whenever it plays. Don't wait for her to have to tell you. If you recognize it and bring it up it will melt her heart.

3) Personal touching is another area that can be a big turn on or turn off! Most likely coming up and grabbing or touching body parts with out first working slowly up to that or waiting for her to get into it could cost you big time. Take personal touching at her pace.

4) Romantic evenings are another area to pay attention to. Does she like candles and music? Does she like word play before foreplay? Maybe she is a "just get to it" kinda gal. See, you should know what will be romantic to her and what will be a turn off.

5) Kissing is yet again an area that requires personalization. Kissing a woman's hand used to be a sign of romance, I am not so sure that would float anyone's boat today. But it might! Find out what style of kissing she finds romantic. Is french kissing a turn on or turn off? Does she like to be lightly held, bear hugged, dipped or your hands on her neck or face during kissing? Knowing how to kiss a woman with a romantic kiss will make a difference.

6) Is she a fan of dancing? If she is this is always romantic to her even if your not a "Dancing With The Stars" award winning dancer. Just hold her and move.

7) Find out what her favorite treat is. Is chocolate her taste turn on? Just because the advertising industry says it is doesn't make it so for everyone. I personally like Red Hots and Bottle Caps, the cola ones. It's not that I don't like chocolate, I do, but I have a daughter that doesn't like milk chocolate but she does like white chocolate. See, you really do have to find out before spending money and doling out gifts that don't get you any romantic effect.

8) Is holding hands as far as she wants you to go in showing affection in public? Does she like to have you put your arm around her to show that you claim her and are proud to be with her? Maybe it is a turn on to be kissed cuddled or hugged in public.

9) Most likely one of the big romantic potions for women is to be told "I love you" out loud, verbally. There is something magical about being told that you are special and that you are loved. While we are on this subject try a little flirting. This shouldn't stop just because you got the girl. Flirting and romance go hand in hand. Flirting and sincere complimenting will open the flood gates to receiving romantic overtures.

10) Writing a love letter, sending or bringing a card are things that can be kept and read and reread later. So this is something that will payoff again and again. Remember be sure that it is lovey mushy stuff not vulgar or inappropriate language or content.

11) For women romance leads to sex not sex leads to romance. That seems to be an opposite for men and women.

Being romantic can be how to kiss woman, making it a romantic kiss, giving flowers, her favorite treat or candy, spending time together, doing a chore for her, writing a love letter, flirting or playing the right music. All of these may or may not be the case. This is for you to find out, remember and then put into action those things that would most closely match what your partner feels is romantic to them.

Honing in on what your partner considers romantic, enjoys or is turned on by will bring you the results that you want and make your effort worthwhile.




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