If you've ever done it, you'll know that reuniting after a breakup can be very romantic; after all, you are each others soul mate. That sounds wonderful, but unless the two of you approach this reconciliation in the right way, the romance is likely to fade very quickly and the two of you will find yourselves in the same cycle of fight and make up that probably led to your breakup in the first place. Unless you are both very immature and like all the attention and the drama, that is not what you want to happen.
With a little time, a lot of love and little knowledge on better ways of doing things, your relationship can be all that you always thought it could be.
Here are a few things that the two of you can work on together:
1. Importantly, decide why you really want to get back together. Loving someone is important but sometimes love just isn't enough if you are incompatible with each other. If that's the case for you, it really is better to end things now as that's the only way you'll ever be able to meet someone who is right for you.
You don't want to stay with someone who makes you unhappy all the time (no matter how much you care for them). Make sure that you aren't thinking of getting back with your ex just because they have started dating someone else, or because you are feeling lonely. Again, if these are some of your reasons for getting together again, it's doomed to failure and you'll cause each other a lot of unwanted pain.
2. Even if your motives for getting back with your ex are pure, and you think that the issues in your relationship aren't so overwhelming that they can't be fixed, there is still another important thing to consider: will you both be willing to make the changes you need to make things work? Even if your relationship isn't plagued with bad problems like abuse, addiction or infidelity, you both still need to be able to face your own demons and those little things you do that cause problems in the relationship. If you're not both willing to do that, the relationship can't work.
Nothing will make you feel better and more in love than reuniting after a breakup, it really does add spice and sparkle to a relationship. It's very important though that the two of you don't get carried away with all those warm fuzzy feelings and not face your real problems. If you ignore the problems they will stomp all over those fuzzy feelings, and that's not much fun at all.
With a little time, a lot of love and little knowledge on better ways of doing things, your relationship can be all that you always thought it could be.
Here are a few things that the two of you can work on together:
1. Importantly, decide why you really want to get back together. Loving someone is important but sometimes love just isn't enough if you are incompatible with each other. If that's the case for you, it really is better to end things now as that's the only way you'll ever be able to meet someone who is right for you.
You don't want to stay with someone who makes you unhappy all the time (no matter how much you care for them). Make sure that you aren't thinking of getting back with your ex just because they have started dating someone else, or because you are feeling lonely. Again, if these are some of your reasons for getting together again, it's doomed to failure and you'll cause each other a lot of unwanted pain.
2. Even if your motives for getting back with your ex are pure, and you think that the issues in your relationship aren't so overwhelming that they can't be fixed, there is still another important thing to consider: will you both be willing to make the changes you need to make things work? Even if your relationship isn't plagued with bad problems like abuse, addiction or infidelity, you both still need to be able to face your own demons and those little things you do that cause problems in the relationship. If you're not both willing to do that, the relationship can't work.
Nothing will make you feel better and more in love than reuniting after a breakup, it really does add spice and sparkle to a relationship. It's very important though that the two of you don't get carried away with all those warm fuzzy feelings and not face your real problems. If you ignore the problems they will stomp all over those fuzzy feelings, and that's not much fun at all.
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