8/4/08

What Does Love Mean?" See How 4-8 Year-Old Kids Describe Love

By Rob Pike


A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds: "What does love mean?"

The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think...

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"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."

Rebecca - age 8

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"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."

Billy - age 4

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"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."

Terri - age 4

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"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."

Danny - age 7

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"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss."

Emily - age 8

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"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."

Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

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"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate."

Nikka - age 6
(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

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"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."

Noelle - age 7

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"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."

Tommy - age 6

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"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.

He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."

Cindy - age 8

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"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."

Elaine - age 5

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."

Chris - age 7

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"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."

Mary Ann - age 4

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"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." (Now THIS is love!)

Lauren - age 4

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"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image!)

Karen - age 7

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross."

Mark - age 6

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"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

Jessica - age 8

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And the final one...

Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,

"Nothing, I just helped him cry."

Love is just the most pure and simple of things.

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8/3/08

Looking at the Usefulness of Couple Compatibility Tests

By David Clinton


There are all types of compatibility tests and astrological sign comparison tests that claim to be able to predict the future of a couple in love, but are couple compatibility tests really helpful? Although they cannot predict the future or determine whether or not a couple will succeed or fail, they can be very beneficial for new couples, serious couples, and even individuals who have been married for years.

Making a determination of the compatibility of two people in a relationship is the goal of a couple compatibility tests. Couples normally take these before they choose to get married to find out that they have many levels of agreement on the various aspects of life. There are several aspects covered with a couples' compatibility test such as habits, likes, dislikes, life at home and the goals they have for the future just to name a few things that are covered.

Although it is not necessary for a couple to have everything in common in order to succeed, couples compatibility tests can help to determine whether or not a relationship is likely to work out. By testing the couple on a number of different aspects and compiling a score based on similar answers, a couple can find out how much they really have in common.

Compatibility tests can give couples an idea of how much they have in common even though they cannot determine if the couple will spend the rest of their lives together or even marry for that matter. This makes them a good idea all the same. The similarities that people have will determine if they get along even though things such as whether they will fall in love, have fights and make mistakes can not be.

A relationship compatibility quiz is a useful way to learn a lot about a significant other, since questions will touch on almost every aspect of life. It is a great way to find out their likes and dislikes, and even their career and family goals for the future. By comparing answers and determining whether or not there are similarities, a couple can determine whether or not their future together will be promising.

Both individuals in a relationship take a couple's compatibility test and the answers are compared to give them an overall compatibility score. This score is based on the number of answers that were given that were similar. Points are also lost for answers that are totally opposite. Partial points are also given for answers that are somewhat similar, and full points are given for those answers that match perfectly. By comparing answers and awarding points for those answers that are similar, a couple is able to realize just how much or how little they have in common with each other.

Though personal preferences and goals change over a period of time, a couple's compatibility test is a great way to be able to compare likes and dislikes from the start. From simple questions like a favorite color to more serious questions about finances and children, two people are able to learn new information about one another. They can learn about the past, present, and future of their significant other and see if they are a good match for each other.

Couples compatibility tests are very helpful because they can bring a couple closer together or bring them to dating other people because of the many differences that existed. Opposites may attract in the short term, but in the end, couples with similar interests last longer than those with dissimilar interests. Though these tests are not meant to be a perfect future predictor of how well a couple will succeed, they are a great tool for being able to see how much a couple has in common.

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Honesty Is Essential To Get Your Ex Back

By Molly Laws


If you and your ex have broken up and you are frantically trying to think of some way to reverse the situation then you need to stop for a second and make sure are being honest with yourself.

Think about why you are so desperate to get your ex back. Because for many people getting their ex back is not a matter of love, it's a matter of jealousy. It's the green monster.

People who are motivated by jealousy are not concerned about what is right for their ex. They only want to renew the relationship because they hate imagining their ex with someone else.

Try your best to separate love from jealousy in your thinking. Your mind can play tricks on you but make every effort to be clear in your thinking because if you are really motivated by jealousy your efforts are probably doomed to failure.

When you are as sure as you can be that your reasons for wanting your ex back are not motivated mainly by jealousy then you have a some more honest thinking to do.

Think about why the relationship broke up in the first place. And be honest with yourself. This is no time to play the blame game.

No matter what the ultimate reason for the break up was you must shoulder some of the responsibility.

Because believe it or not, if the blame is mostly yours you have a much better chance of reversing the split and getting back together.

How can that be you say?

You can't change your ex. So if you bear no responsibility for the ending of your relationship then there is nothing you can change to get your ex back.

But if you are mostly at fault then you can make corrections that your ex can see and that will hopefully lead to reunion.

Be honest with yourself. Do your best to understand why you want your ex back and what you did to cause the break up and you have a great chance of getting your ex back.

8/1/08

You Can Get Your Ex Back

By Justin Krawl


Have you just suffered through a recent breakup with your ex? Do you think it was a mistake to do so? If you do, you might be tempted to try to reconcile immediately, but don't. It's understandable that you want to "state your case" in the hopes that your ex will hear you and want you back, but it's likely only to make you more disappointed and hurt. You can, however, win back your ex in 25 days without going through this sort of heartache. There are three things you can do that will help you to be back together within 25 days.

First, be honest with yourself and see what needs to be changed if you are to reconcile with your ex. This is the hardest part, because a lot of us don't want to see our flaws or faults, and we don't want to admit that we've made mistakes. Therefore, it's pretty easy to simply push this part of the process aside and not choose to deal with our own faults head on. However, we have to if we're going to see and heal the issues within ourselves that contributed to the breakup. For example, if you lied a lot in the relationship, you have to be honest with yourself and start fixing this before you try getting back with your ex. Did your ex feel unappreciated? Did you spend enough time with him or her? You have to ask yourself a lot of hard questions before you even try to win back your ex.

Now the first thing to do is to perform an honest self assessment with yourself and explore those areas that could use improvement. It's best to write these items down so you can plainly see them. Brainstorm for two or three days, contemplating simple changes you can make to allow this relationship to flourish. This is nothing that you need to share with anyone. Instead, this is for your own reference.

After you have written these issues down, begin to think of what you can do to change them. And do not attempt a reconciliation until you've taken this assessment and worked on those issues. This is your first assignment, as well as the second step, and it is the key to winning back your ex. After you have made the changes you feel are most important to your ex, you can then go on to the next step.

The last step, after you have made the changes you feel are necessary, is to allow yourself to be seen by your ex. He or she will be surprised to see the changes you have made, and this is very intriguing. Please note, however, that this is still not the time to attempt to win him or her back. At this time, you are only attempting to impress him or her and nothing more. Just let him or her see the changes you have made which he or she desires. Also, apologize to him or her for anything you might have done wrong. Be kind but confident when you communicate with him or her. I guarantee that if you follow the steps outlined above and conclude with this final step, your ex will begin to realize it was a mistake to have left you. He or she will then become desperate to be with you again.

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Getting Your Ex Lover Back

By Justin Krawl


Most relationships can be saved following a breakup, regardless of who was at fault for the breakup in the first place. After a period of cooling off, it is more than likely that at least one of you, if not both, will be trying to think of how to get the other party back again. After a breakup, behavioral changes are common, such as not listening to certain songs which remind you of your ex. Some people instead will immediately try to salvage things; calling repeatedly trying to patch things up, or driving by their ex's home to check up on them.

The fights which can precipitate breakups are quite often because one party feels neglected or unappreciated. These sorts of feelings can fuel depression and build up over time to the point that even an argument over something very minor can lead to a breakup. These sorts of problems can be fixed, so if you've been wondering how to get your lover back, there may be hope for the relationship yet.

Both parties should be given ample opportunity to cool off. If your ex isn't taking your calls at the moment, that does not necessarily mean that there's no hope of reuniting. They might simply still be angry at you - or interested to see how badly you want to get back together.

You shouldn't make yourself appear desperate, however. Repeated calls are a bad idea here. You want them to know that you miss them; this is only natural when a couple has been together for a while. Keep the principles of reverse psychology in mind - people use it all the time to attract each other.

Before even attempting to get your lover back, however, you both need to decide on your own if this is the right decision. Were the two of you always fighting about the most minor if issues or is one partner so jealous that it is in and of itself an issue? Be honest with yourself when trying to make this decision.

Don't spy on your ex when you are trying to get your lover back. They will perceive that you don't think they are trustworthy, which will only make matters worse.

When you are in such a highly emotional state, it is all too easy to go overboard and take actions like this. You have a much better chance of reuniting if you calm down, step back and approach things more casually. When the two of you are ready to talk, do not discuss your breakup. Tell them that it may have been for the best, this will put you at an advantage in this situation.

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Tips to Help You Get Your Ex Back

By Ricardo d Argence


Are there any useful tips on getting my girlfriend back? What are the steps that I should take to get my girlfriend back? What if she is ignoring me? Do I still have a good chance or is it an indication for me to give up and move on? If you are reading this article, most probably, you still want to get back together with your ex as well.

Well, if you really believe that she is your soul mate and are meant to be together, there is no reason why you should give up so easily. You should definitely give your very best to fight for your happiness.

You have decided to get back together with your ex-lover. You will require your bond to be firmer than it was. You do not want to go through another break up again. So, before reconciling any relationship, it if first necessary to have an honest discussion of the problems that resulted in the breakup of that relationship.

However, you don't want to push her too much as it can backfire. If you have just broken up a few days ago, then you will need to be patient and take things more slowly.Avoid calling her immediately after the break up. Chances are she will ignore you. Even if you manage to reach her now, you might not know the right thing to say for the time being.

It is best to have a month to evaluate your true feelings and mend your heartache. I feel that your girlfriend also needs time for herself.

During this time, you should think about whether you want to move on or try to get her back. If you can, make an effort to avoid her for one month.

Of course, if she works or goes to school with you, most likely you will not be able to avoid seeing her on a regular basis.I f you are faced with this situation, you should not pretend that you do not see her. You don't need to talk to her if you don't want to. In fact, you will want to minimize your conversation with her. You should at the very least remain amicable and acknowledge her should you meet . If, after a month, you decide to you want your girlfriend back this will leave the door wide open.

Remember that this is just a basic technique to get start talking to her again. So, get ready to create a plan to get your ex back.

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7/31/08

Extramarital Affair Whereabouts - and Who is it with?

By Sally Webb


You believe your partner is having extramarital affair with someone else, but there is just no proof to justify that - and you don't know how to find that proof.

How do you find out exactly what he is doing behind your back...and with who is he doing it?

Before we go on there is one point to remember, the woman he may be cheating with has the role of the third party - and she is not necessarily better than you in any way. He is just using her as an 'escape' to the problem he is having in your marriage - HIS problem.

However, I must admit it is not up to anyone else to decide what you really need to know of this extramarital affair. So if this is for your peace of mind, go on and find out.

1. The Other Woman

This is the first clue you want to find out. In fact, once you have a good idea on who the third party he is having his extramarital affair with, it is easier to guess on where and when the affair actually take place.

Ok, how would you find out?

You can put down few names that he has mentioned recently (especially female names). There will only be a few - and no doubt he has mentioned these names in conversation before. At the start of the affair, he wouldn't have covered it up in any way - as normally affair is unplanned.

Normally the person he has an affair with has something in common with him - at least enough to entice his 'excitement' brain. This will make him blurt out her name subconsciously anyhow.

Tips: It is good if you are calm and act 'dumb' - so that he doesn't know you are suspecting anything. This will definitely make him make more mistakes such as saying her name even more times than he should - bring her into conversations even more.

3. What is it they're doing

Beside the actual extramarital affair intimacy, there must be something else that both he and this other woman have in common. Normally this is something that YOU don't have in common with your spouse - and it becomes the affair's connection.

Example of the activities can be sport, skateboarding, skiing, the gym etc.

3. Where is it?

Knowing him for a while you should have a fair idea on what he enjoys doing - without you. With this in mind you can also guess where those activities take place e.g. fishing in the lake and so on. Don't forget, the physical things would also happen somewhere and the safest place sometimes is your own house or area.

Places around his workplace can also be good for meeting during lunch time and after work.

4. When they are doing it?

There is no easy answer for this, meeting his other woman around your area sounds crazy too.

Well, just as you know him, he also knows your schedule. If he normally is oblivious and doesn't really care about what you do, now he would. He also has a good idea on which ones of your plan you would carry out.

An example to this is you go to Yoga or Pilates every Tuesday night, and that's exactly when he will meet his other woman. If you visit your parents' place every other weekend - and you hardly miss it, he would also use that time.

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