7/29/08

40 Something, And Still Dating!

By Pam Baldwin

For men who have reached that plateau of 40 years old, the prospect of finding someone to marry, have a family with, and ultimately settle down may seem like a big stretch if they haven't started down that road. Although it may seem daunting, the reality is that even guys who have reached forty aren't completely rejected - in fact, many men today over forty meet wonderful women and actively date on a regular basis.

Even though they get just as nervous as any other guy, these men go full speed ahead, not even thinking of their anxieties. There are some helpful tips for men over 40 who want to find that special someone, or who just want to date, these tips are important in today's society.

One of the biggest dating tips for men over 40 that can be considered is the use of a dating site online. While these websites tend to be thought of as a way for younger singles to meet, there are a great deal of middle aged and like aged people for the over-40 crowd that are also looking to meet someone. Of course, you may find yourself tempted to want to click the profile of every 21 year old co-ed on these sites, but have realistic goals for yourself, and look for women that match your personality, not just those that catch your eye.

If you are interested in finding that special someone in your life, there are many wonderful sites like eharmony, that allow you to meet someone based on your personality. This means being honest about yourself which is pretty hard to do. But being able to do this can be the difference of a one night stand or the love of your life.

Of course, one of the greatest dating tips for men over 40 is to be confident when on a date with a young woman. Even though you might be a little older than the woman you're out with, acting youthful is still a definite turn on for young women. Being a little playful in conversation, acting a little immature while still maintaining a fairly gentlemanly and dignified presence can add a little mystique to your personality, which can pique a woman's interest. A little bit of playful banter, or maybe a mischievous comment or two to set a romantic mood can create a loose atmosphere and help a woman feel more comfortable around you.

Here, the same old rule applies - you need to listen to a woman. As a man over 40 you probably need to fight the urge to talk and talk instead of sit and listen. No matter how old you are, you need to have an equal conversation, which means listening to what your date has to say. A woman will be more interested in you if you show a true interest and respond to what she is saying.

Do not take on the role of a father, while out on a date. A lot of older men without knowing take on the parental role, thus making her feel like your daughter. Try and react like you would of 20 years ago and see how much further that will get you.

For men over 40 there are many tips on dating, wether it's over the Internet,books or advice columns and these are just a few examples to think about when wanting to get out there on the dating scene. Always remember as a man over 40, be yourself and be true, and you will be surprised on how well you will do.

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