7/29/08

Are You Trying To Make Sense Of Online Dating?

By Chaszey Sandhriel

Have you ever noticed that most Internet profiles start with "I am" or "I want?" And although you're the one looking for true love, your profile shouldn't be only about you.

Sandhriel states: "Online Dating is not about the person posting the ad, but about the person they are looking for; this is called Compound Interest. You can achieve success when you 'Pay it Forward.'"

"What do I have to pay forward?" you may wonder.

Think about it. There are more than 10 million Daters registered with Internet Dating sites paying over $2 billion dollars per year in the hopes of finding true love. If everyone is looking for just that one person, the likelihood that we spend most of our time rejecting others and being rejected ourselves is a given. In other words, once your sizzling profile is public, all you can focus on is weeding through the hundreds or even thousands of men and women that flood towards you.

Until your true love has found you, try earning some karma browny points by responding to those you're not interested in with grace. Because that most likely what you'll spend most of your time with when you embark on the wild world of Online Dating.

"We all have heard the saying that 'what goes out comes back tenfold.' What we tend to forget is that no one should have to earn our kindness and our respect. Everyone deserves these gifts from us for the simplest fact that we share in the same sun light, the same water, the same air, and we all walk pretty similar paths to one another, a journey called life. We have to recognize and never forget that we all are looking for the same thing: Unconditional love," says Chaszey.

Learning how to send graceful rejections that don't feel like rejections to your suiters takes time, effort and a kind heart. Chaszey says: "It's so worth it because soon you realize your positive karma points are subject to compound interest and before you know it your life is changing in dramatic ways that you never dreamed possible. It's hard to explain, but so worth it."

These karma points serve like a bonus to help you build a new character and create a stronger and kinder you so you can bring into your experience the person you truly deserve.

So before you hit that pre-programmed "thanks but no thanks" button, take a few minutes and read the other person's profile anyway, and send them a response that is filled with your kindness, not because they deserve it, but because that's who you are.

Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online Dating Coach and helps Online Daters create sizzling results. You can visit her at www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com or call her at 415.419.7952.

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