You believe your partner is having extramarital affair with someone else, but there is just no proof to justify that - and you don't know how to find that proof.
What, When and Where is he actually doing it - and with who?
Before you go any further though, realise that who he is cheating with might not be as important as looking for a solution in the first place. That other woman may just take a role of 'the other woman' or the role of 'his escape' from the marriage problem HE may be having.
It is up to you whether or not you want to find out about his extramarital affair - but remember that this is your choice for your peace of mind.
1. The Third Party
This is the first clue you want to find out. In fact, once you have a good idea on who the third party he is having his extramarital affair with, it is easier to guess on where and when the affair actually take place.
So how do you find out who she is?
You can put down few names that he has mentioned recently (especially female names). There will only be a few - and no doubt he has mentioned these names in conversation before. At the start of the affair, he wouldn't have covered it up in any way - as normally affair is unplanned.
Usually the other woman has something in common with the cheating spouse, something that can lead him into the 'infatuation' stage with her. Yes, so the name will somehow be blurted out...no excuse about it.
Tips: It is good if you are calm and act 'dumb' - so that he doesn't know you are suspecting anything. This will definitely make him make more mistakes such as saying her name even more times than he should - bring her into conversations even more.
3. What is it they're doing
There must be things that they do - that you don't normally do with your spouse - the things that they have in common. Of course, as it is an extramarital affair there would be some physical intimacy involved some other times too.
This can be anything that you can think of - even including watching the footy in the stadium. If he and the other woman work in the same company, that can also be their common grounds.
3. The Meeting Place
If you have a rough idea on what he normally enjoys doing you will be able to guess it. There is a few rules associated with this including the 50 mile rule: make sure you do it 50 mile away, and the 'dangerous is safe' rule: the more dangerous it seems the safer it would be (This means he will actually meet his other woman in YOUR area - or if you live with him he'll meet his other woman in your place).
Another place is the workplace (Somewhere around his workplace).
4. When is he with her?
This relates to number 3. I am sure you wonder how he can ever meet his other woman in YOUR place... huh?
If he hasn't been doing it, you'll notice soon he will ask you many questions around your schedule - or if he doesn't, he probably already knows your schedule off by heart. If he lives with you for a while now, he would have a good idea as well which ones of your schedule will be fixed, and which ones are 'tentative'.
Whether you like it or not, you will have fixed schedule such as 'working late every Wednesday night' or 'Go out with the girls every Thursday night'. Some of them you just cannot get out of and he will use this very time to meet his significant other.
About the Author:
Knowing this information will hopefully help you in catching a cheating spouse. Visit cheating-spouse-alert.com to get even more information on how to catch cheating spouse - red handed hopefully. By: Sally Webb.
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