Extramarital Affair Whereabouts - and Who is it with?

By Sally Webb

You believe your partner is having extramarital affair with someone else, but there is just no proof to justify that - and you don't know how to find that proof.

How do you find out exactly what he is doing behind your back...and with who is he doing it?

Before we go on there is one point to remember, the woman he may be cheating with has the role of the third party - and she is not necessarily better than you in any way. He is just using her as an 'escape' to the problem he is having in your marriage - HIS problem.

However, I must admit it is not up to anyone else to decide what you really need to know of this extramarital affair. So if this is for your peace of mind, go on and find out.

1. The Other Woman

This is the first clue you want to find out. In fact, once you have a good idea on who the third party he is having his extramarital affair with, it is easier to guess on where and when the affair actually take place.

Ok, how would you find out?

You can put down few names that he has mentioned recently (especially female names). There will only be a few - and no doubt he has mentioned these names in conversation before. At the start of the affair, he wouldn't have covered it up in any way - as normally affair is unplanned.

Normally the person he has an affair with has something in common with him - at least enough to entice his 'excitement' brain. This will make him blurt out her name subconsciously anyhow.

Tips: It is good if you are calm and act 'dumb' - so that he doesn't know you are suspecting anything. This will definitely make him make more mistakes such as saying her name even more times than he should - bring her into conversations even more.

3. What is it they're doing

Beside the actual extramarital affair intimacy, there must be something else that both he and this other woman have in common. Normally this is something that YOU don't have in common with your spouse - and it becomes the affair's connection.

Example of the activities can be sport, skateboarding, skiing, the gym etc.

3. Where is it?

Knowing him for a while you should have a fair idea on what he enjoys doing - without you. With this in mind you can also guess where those activities take place e.g. fishing in the lake and so on. Don't forget, the physical things would also happen somewhere and the safest place sometimes is your own house or area.

Places around his workplace can also be good for meeting during lunch time and after work.

4. When they are doing it?

There is no easy answer for this, meeting his other woman around your area sounds crazy too.

Well, just as you know him, he also knows your schedule. If he normally is oblivious and doesn't really care about what you do, now he would. He also has a good idea on which ones of your plan you would carry out.

An example to this is you go to Yoga or Pilates every Tuesday night, and that's exactly when he will meet his other woman. If you visit your parents' place every other weekend - and you hardly miss it, he would also use that time.

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Having this information will hopefully help you in catching a cheating spouse. Check out cheating-spouse-alert.com to get even more information on how to catch cheating spouse - red handed hopefully. By: Sally Webb.

Get Back With Your Ex: The First Steps

By Marc Sandford

It's official, you and your ex have finally broken up. So what do you do now? This article will deal with the first steps to take immediately after a breakup.

1.) It is vital that you get over the panic and stress about your breakup. You cannot take control and actually do something that will work when you're stressed out. Don't discuss with your friends all the wrongs that your ex did.

This will only reinforce and prolong your negative feelings. It will also make your friends very uncomfortable. Unless they're experienced at resolving relationship problems, their suggestions will be off the top of their head and won't be very useful.

2.) Don't assume that the situation will somehow fix itself. Nothing will change unless you make it happen. This can only be accomplished with a cool head.

You will have to resist the urge to fix your relationship as rapidly as possible. This won't be done overnight. In fact it will take some time for the emotions of the breakup to settle down.

If the breakup happened in a non threatening way, reconciliation with her will be much easier. In order to a get some perspective, you'll need to allow some time for reflection. Before you try contacting her, you must have an understanding of the reasons for the breakup.

3.) Be friends with her. It's not the easiest thing to do with someone you've recently broken up with but it sets you up well for future contact with her. The status of your relationship is defined by what happened during your last contact. This last contact forms the basis of her recent memories about you.

Do the fun things with her that you did back in the beginning, before you had sex. This will serve to remind her of the good side of your relationship. She will understand that she'll be giving this fun aspect up if she leaves you.

4.) Be careful of alcohol. It will mess up your judgement. It's very common for a person late at night after a few drinks to think that it's a good idea to wake up their ex with a phone call.

No one is in a good frame of mind when they're wakened late at night by a phone call. This is doubly so if that call is from their ex. On top of this, the alcohol will diminish your inhibitions and you will regress to the usual behaviors that causes conflict.

5.) Get away from the house and enjoy yourself. Easier said than done, I know, but it's a great form of therapy. It's time to dust off old friendships and to make some new ones too. There's no better remedy for driving away the blues of separation than enjoying life again.

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Extramarital Affair Meeting Place - How do I guess?

By Sally Webb

You believe your partner is having extramarital affair with someone else, but there is just no proof to justify that - and you don't know how to find that proof.

What, When and Where is he actually doing it - and with who?

Before you go any further though, realise that who he is cheating with might not be as important as looking for a solution in the first place. That other woman may just take a role of 'the other woman' or the role of 'his escape' from the marriage problem HE may be having.

It is up to you whether or not you want to find out about his extramarital affair - but remember that this is your choice for your peace of mind.

1. The Third Party

This is the first clue you want to find out. In fact, once you have a good idea on who the third party he is having his extramarital affair with, it is easier to guess on where and when the affair actually take place.

So how do you find out who she is?

You can put down few names that he has mentioned recently (especially female names). There will only be a few - and no doubt he has mentioned these names in conversation before. At the start of the affair, he wouldn't have covered it up in any way - as normally affair is unplanned.

Usually the other woman has something in common with the cheating spouse, something that can lead him into the 'infatuation' stage with her. Yes, so the name will somehow be blurted out...no excuse about it.

Tips: It is good if you are calm and act 'dumb' - so that he doesn't know you are suspecting anything. This will definitely make him make more mistakes such as saying her name even more times than he should - bring her into conversations even more.

3. What is it they're doing

There must be things that they do - that you don't normally do with your spouse - the things that they have in common. Of course, as it is an extramarital affair there would be some physical intimacy involved some other times too.

This can be anything that you can think of - even including watching the footy in the stadium. If he and the other woman work in the same company, that can also be their common grounds.

3. The Meeting Place

If you have a rough idea on what he normally enjoys doing you will be able to guess it. There is a few rules associated with this including the 50 mile rule: make sure you do it 50 mile away, and the 'dangerous is safe' rule: the more dangerous it seems the safer it would be (This means he will actually meet his other woman in YOUR area - or if you live with him he'll meet his other woman in your place).

Another place is the workplace (Somewhere around his workplace).

4. When is he with her?

This relates to number 3. I am sure you wonder how he can ever meet his other woman in YOUR place... huh?

If he hasn't been doing it, you'll notice soon he will ask you many questions around your schedule - or if he doesn't, he probably already knows your schedule off by heart. If he lives with you for a while now, he would have a good idea as well which ones of your schedule will be fixed, and which ones are 'tentative'.

Whether you like it or not, you will have fixed schedule such as 'working late every Wednesday night' or 'Go out with the girls every Thursday night'. Some of them you just cannot get out of and he will use this very time to meet his significant other.

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Knowing this information will hopefully help you in catching a cheating spouse. Visit cheating-spouse-alert.com to get even more information on how to catch cheating spouse - red handed hopefully. By: Sally Webb.