You have seen some signs to let you believe your partner is having an extramarital affair, but you don't know any other information or clue other than your own belief.
What, When and Where is he actually doing it - and with who?
Before you go any further though, realise that who he is cheating with might not be as important as looking for a solution in the first place. That other woman may just take a role of 'the other woman' or the role of 'his escape' from the marriage problem HE may be having.
With that in mind though, no one can decide whether or not you should find out more information about his extramarital affair. If you want to find out, read on.
1. Who is she?
This is the first clue you want to find out. In fact, once you have a good idea on who the third party he is having his extramarital affair with, it is easier to guess on where and when the affair actually take place.
Ok, how would you find out?
You can put down few names that he has mentioned recently (especially female names). There will only be a few - and no doubt he has mentioned these names in conversation before. At the start of the affair, he wouldn't have covered it up in any way - as normally affair is unplanned.
Usually the other woman has something in common with the cheating spouse, something that can lead him into the 'infatuation' stage with her. Yes, so the name will somehow be blurted out...no excuse about it.
Note: It's better if you don't freak out or show your suspicion to him too much otherwise he would be much more careful in blurting out her name.
2. The activity
There must be things that they do - that you don't normally do with your spouse - the things that they have in common. Of course, as it is an extramarital affair there would be some physical intimacy involved some other times too.
Example of the activities can be sport, skateboarding, skiing, the gym etc.
3. The Meeting Place
Knowing him for a while you should have a fair idea on what he enjoys doing - without you. With this in mind you can also guess where those activities take place e.g. fishing in the lake and so on. Don't forget, the physical things would also happen somewhere and the safest place sometimes is your own house or area.
Places around his workplace can also be good for meeting during lunch time and after work.
4. When is it?
Some women would ask me now: "If he dares to do it in MY OWN place - I live with him, WHEN?" especially if you're hardly on holidays.
Ok, if you live with him he sure knows your schedule - or he may have been more interested in your activity and schedule lately. As he is very close with you, he knows exactly which ones of your schedule would likely go through versus the ones that you may cancel in the last minute.
For example, if you take a sick leave on Monday - and you have been whining that you don't have enough sick leave left, he knows you will be away on Tuesday or Wednesday. Another example: If he knows you are attending your best friend's birthday party he knows you cannot get out of it.
What, When and Where is he actually doing it - and with who?
Before you go any further though, realise that who he is cheating with might not be as important as looking for a solution in the first place. That other woman may just take a role of 'the other woman' or the role of 'his escape' from the marriage problem HE may be having.
With that in mind though, no one can decide whether or not you should find out more information about his extramarital affair. If you want to find out, read on.
1. Who is she?
This is the first clue you want to find out. In fact, once you have a good idea on who the third party he is having his extramarital affair with, it is easier to guess on where and when the affair actually take place.
Ok, how would you find out?
You can put down few names that he has mentioned recently (especially female names). There will only be a few - and no doubt he has mentioned these names in conversation before. At the start of the affair, he wouldn't have covered it up in any way - as normally affair is unplanned.
Usually the other woman has something in common with the cheating spouse, something that can lead him into the 'infatuation' stage with her. Yes, so the name will somehow be blurted out...no excuse about it.
Note: It's better if you don't freak out or show your suspicion to him too much otherwise he would be much more careful in blurting out her name.
2. The activity
There must be things that they do - that you don't normally do with your spouse - the things that they have in common. Of course, as it is an extramarital affair there would be some physical intimacy involved some other times too.
Example of the activities can be sport, skateboarding, skiing, the gym etc.
3. The Meeting Place
Knowing him for a while you should have a fair idea on what he enjoys doing - without you. With this in mind you can also guess where those activities take place e.g. fishing in the lake and so on. Don't forget, the physical things would also happen somewhere and the safest place sometimes is your own house or area.
Places around his workplace can also be good for meeting during lunch time and after work.
4. When is it?
Some women would ask me now: "If he dares to do it in MY OWN place - I live with him, WHEN?" especially if you're hardly on holidays.
Ok, if you live with him he sure knows your schedule - or he may have been more interested in your activity and schedule lately. As he is very close with you, he knows exactly which ones of your schedule would likely go through versus the ones that you may cancel in the last minute.
For example, if you take a sick leave on Monday - and you have been whining that you don't have enough sick leave left, he knows you will be away on Tuesday or Wednesday. Another example: If he knows you are attending your best friend's birthday party he knows you cannot get out of it.
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