3/13/12

How to Fix a Cheating Relationship

By Lynn Huber


Remember these phrases? "Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue. Honesty is hardly ever heard. And mostly what I need from you."

It's not surprising this 1978 Billy Joel song became an instant hit because of the sensitive message it has brought to countless hurting people, who have been at one point in their lives, cheated and deceived. Loving someone in good times is natural; you actually do not even have to think about it, it comes so simply and spontaneously. On the other hand, loving someone in hard times is one of the toughest things to do, a major challenge to most couples. Well, it is a choice that one makes and perhaps along with life's bittersweet phases, many have opted not to love through bad times, hence the failure and fate of most relationships.

Along with incompatibility, psychological incapacity, immaturity, money fears and other familiar issues, CHEATING has become the key cause of most shattered relationships. With this reality, does your relationship have to end because of a cheating partner? The response may not be necessarily yes. It can also be NO, only if you are willing to give it a chance. Relationships do not need to end because of dishonesty and adultery. There are several ways to fix a cheating relationship. Although it needs a lot of sacrifice, hard work, patience, reason and shared respect, recovery from a distasteful relationship blurred by cheating can be well on its way.

You might ask, "Why does my partner cheat?" Is it something that you lack that he might need? Is it because of his raging and wild hormones that need quick satisfaction? Is there an emotional baggage that is pulling down the relationship? Are there people standing in the way? The question can go on and on and yet the relationship will remain tainted with deceit and hesitancy to become truthful.

Discharging Old Misdemeanors - You cannot go on in a relationship if you continue to carry a heavy load. Past emotional baggage can pull down a relationship. Unload these anchor-like chains and get away from old mistakes and misdemeanors. Learn, unlearn and relearn.

Resolve To Be Straight - The willingness to be truthful and transparent is a good start. Learn to turn away completely from pretentious lifestyle. Your partner will be able to receive the real you when you get rid of deceitful ways.

Try Hard To Change for the Better - How to fix a cheating relationship will all depend on how hard, one or both will work to change for the better.




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