This is a true story about a girl, but it is always about a boy. The girl, Stacey, was a freshmen student of one the prestigious schools in her state. She was taking up a course related to communication studies. While doing a project on virtual communication, she decided to work on a participant observation research on online dating. She maintained a user name in yahoo messenger and registered in several sites. That was where she met Shelton, who was a black American from California.
Shelton was highly friendly. He would send Stacey personal messages after their usual conversation. Stacey would take the messages as research materials. She would try to deconstruct the details and analyze the sincerity of it. She would pull out the implications and stir theories in it in the aim of trying to understand how Shelton could express so much in a limited medium such as the mails.
Stacey soon wondered why she would become very excited to receive messages from Shelton. Little did she know that she had grown adorned with the sweetness of Shelton's messages that she no longer looked at it as a variable for analysis but as something to make her day feel exceptionally good during her day.
Of course, in the process of acknowledging her feelings, she passed through a stage of confusion were in she became skeptical about Shelton's sincerity. The stereotypical view of Shelton as a black American emerged even if such embedded judgment was already hidden in her mindset having attended several racial appreciation and deference classes. She thought Shelton was a maniac who only wants to have sex with her.
But Shelton proved to become a highly respectable man. After being reciprocated with his feelings, he eventually informed Stacey that he was willing to go to her state and formally court her. He expressed the necessary actions to overcome such a work no matter how classic it may look. He said that by that means he would show how genuine he was and how serious he is about wanting to be in a relationship.
When Shelton finally visited Stacey's place, he lived up to his promise by sticking to his values and not even forcing for physical intimacy. It was during that time that Stacey eventually decided to put Shelton aside from the list of communication research respondents and see him as someone to actually become steady with. In the end, what was initially a study became a result of a blissfully lasting relationship of two people who met online.
Shelton was highly friendly. He would send Stacey personal messages after their usual conversation. Stacey would take the messages as research materials. She would try to deconstruct the details and analyze the sincerity of it. She would pull out the implications and stir theories in it in the aim of trying to understand how Shelton could express so much in a limited medium such as the mails.
Stacey soon wondered why she would become very excited to receive messages from Shelton. Little did she know that she had grown adorned with the sweetness of Shelton's messages that she no longer looked at it as a variable for analysis but as something to make her day feel exceptionally good during her day.
Of course, in the process of acknowledging her feelings, she passed through a stage of confusion were in she became skeptical about Shelton's sincerity. The stereotypical view of Shelton as a black American emerged even if such embedded judgment was already hidden in her mindset having attended several racial appreciation and deference classes. She thought Shelton was a maniac who only wants to have sex with her.
But Shelton proved to become a highly respectable man. After being reciprocated with his feelings, he eventually informed Stacey that he was willing to go to her state and formally court her. He expressed the necessary actions to overcome such a work no matter how classic it may look. He said that by that means he would show how genuine he was and how serious he is about wanting to be in a relationship.
When Shelton finally visited Stacey's place, he lived up to his promise by sticking to his values and not even forcing for physical intimacy. It was during that time that Stacey eventually decided to put Shelton aside from the list of communication research respondents and see him as someone to actually become steady with. In the end, what was initially a study became a result of a blissfully lasting relationship of two people who met online.
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