3/5/12

How to prevent the break up

By Andre Skillet


Breaks ups always occur. Whether we like it or not, there will always be problems arriving in relationships. Some problems are easy to solve and some are not. Break ups occur when a problem is already unsolvable or was not resolve at the right time. Here are the things you should do to prevent the break up from happening.

Be open to him if you have problems. Tell him if something is bothering you. If you feel that there is distance between the two of you, tell him. There is no harm in being open to him. It is even a plus.

Do not accuse him of anything. It is purely bad to accuse a person of something whether or not he did something bad or not. You always have to have evidence on hands. However, instead of accusing, ask him nicely. Asking in a form of a joke is the best thing you can do.

At all times be rational. Seeing the issue within two perspectives and with gray areas is always a plus. Accept defeat if it is indeed your fault. Ask him to accept defeat if it is his fault. Being open in many ways will help strengthen your relationship.

Be honest. Honestly is the best policy. A cliche is a cliche for a reason. Therefore, be honest at all times. Tell him why you were late and he will tell you why he was. The key is doing the golden rule. Do things you want him to do to you.

Compliment your partner and as much as possible, say something nice to your partner every day. Tell him that he looks good or he is smart and funny. Laugh at all times. A good laugh makes a good relationship. Watch funny films that will ignite laughter. As they say, laughter is the best medicine so laugh at all times. Laugh when you have problems. Laugh after a fight. Laugh when one of you is sad.




About the Author:



Is He prepared to settle down?

By Alex Shant


You have been together for quite some time. You wish to settle down but you are not sure if he intends to. You feel that he is the best person for you and he is the right one for you. How do you know that he wants to settle down?

How do you know that he is the right one for you? How do you know that he is ready to be with you for the rest of your life?

Obviously, the best way to know this is if he proposed to you. However, sometimes, men are timid. They want to be sure if you want to settle down too before asking you the question. Check his actions if indeed he wants to propose. You can do this by giving your own signals, too. Spark a conversation about marriage and how much you love a marriage that last. Make the conversation as long as possible and ask him some insights about marriage. Surely he will propose after the good conversation in day's time.

Is he ready for responsibility? You can tell if a man is ready to settle down if he accepts responsibilities. Is he dependable with his finances? Does he have sayings on the bank? These are the things you have to consider before you decide to settle with a person. Financial matters can be the root of a relationships downfall. Because of this, you have to be sure you and your man have the capability to have a family.

Lastly, be sure that he is loyal. A man is usually attracted to women but if he nurses that attraction often then it means he is not meant to settle down. Infidelity is the main reason why some marriage is not successful. Therefore, it is better to be sure that your man is loyal so that you won't waste your time with him.




About the Author:



The Parenting Task Of Helping Your Youngster Rise Up To New Challenges

By Candice Amamando Xavier


Sometimes, we as parents, pass on things to our children without even noticing, and that makes the job extremely problematic. All people have personality traits, and they seem to be passed on to their children without any effort at all.

An interesting dynamic is the result of your life and personality being mixed in a blender. As interesting as this is with only one person, what will it be like with a spouse and children added in. No matter what the difficulty level faced by spouses, partners, or parents, there is no reason to make any changes. Taking your own life and mixing it with another, and adding in children and experiences is what makes life a good thing.

Children should never be put in the middle of a full-blown argument between the parents. This is a very unwise thing to do, for a variety of reasons. When children hear their parents fighting, or if they just know that there are issues, not only do they have fears, but they usually believe they are the blame for the problems. Children know more than the parents think, especially when it comes to hidden problems. Constructive resolution of a problem can turn a difficult issue into a great learning opportunity. In order for children to learn about dealing with problems later in life, they need to experience conflicts being resolved by their parents. If I take a look back at my childhood, I can remember a time when I quit at something because I didn't think I was good enough. It's hard to let go of emotions when they feel so traumatic at the time. As a parent, you need to be constantly aware of how your child is feeling. Don't push your child into an activity if they really are not enjoying it. Let them talk about their feelings and encourage them to talk to you. By letting your children talk it out with you and then you can decide what to do together. It is easy to get bogged down only looking at one situation, but by looking at how it might be a blessing in disguise will help your child see there might be something different for them in their future.

Parents are the examples for almost everything when it comes to children. After a number of years, they know what each parent is all about. Imitation of others is what children do best, so if you are the person who is mainly with your children, they will copy a lot of your behaviors. Having parents who are always setting a positive example, is better than most children ever get. Yes, there will be those special times when things get out of control, perhaps. Children will understand and deal with it, when they realize that these aren't normal occurrences.

People quite often think that they can do a better job than their parents, until they become parents themselves, and realize how hard the test really are. In many different ways this becomes a test for you and your spouse. Being consistent in raising a child will change you and your spouse and make all of you better for the effort you put in.

An ideal way to produce a positive family atmosphere would be to take a lot of pictures of your children and place them up around the house. This can be pretty cheap if you have the right kind of computer printer. To make sure, seek advice from your neighborhood computer shop today.




About the Author:



The Many Facets Of Kid Rearing And All Of The Unique Conflicts

By Miles J Sunkest


There will never be a day in your child's life that you won't learn something new about being a parent and the challenges it presents. While it may not feel like it, you will learn a lot about yourself and your child through these experiences since you are doing them together. When they get to the next grade in school, there is often new opportunities that were not available to them in those embarrassing "lower grades." Your children will want to grow up fast until they realize that it's harder than they anticipated. Parents can do a lot to help prepare their child to leave home so that it is an easy transition. Your child will appreciate the various ways you will walk alongside them in the challenges they encounter.

People have disagreements, but couples should never have heated arguments in front of their children. It is very unhealthy for parents to argue in front of children, for too many reasons. If there are problems and issues, children have a way of discovering it, and of course they are wide-open when it comes to perceiving the feelings of others - especially the parents. So if there is tension between parents, your kids will know about it for sure. Constructive resolution of a problem can turn a difficult issue into a great learning opportunity. This approach can even be done in front of them, and they will have a good idea about how to use that in their own lives.

As you raise your children, you will notice that, as many experts agree, each child will be more proficient in different subjects. If your kids are academically inclined, more than likely it is something that they were born with in regard to their interest level. Some kids will have a strong desire to do things outside of school, whereas others will thrive doing schoolwork. That is where you can try to work with your child based on your knowledge of his or her personality, likes and dislikes. A great emphasis should be made upon your teenagers so that they are aware that completing high school is a very important step. If your kids start to struggle, a great idea would be to get them a tutor so they can successfully complete this goal.

If your children are not that adept with school subjects, they may become increasingly moody as their stress levels increase and they continue to fail. Many children will feel inadequate or experience feelings of depression because of their scholastic troubles. Or, if they are called upon during class and do not know the answers, and then perhaps other students laugh or taunt them. By being aware of what is going on, you can be a positive influence in their lives and a helping hand at the same time. The best initial strategy is talking with your child and figuring out a plan of action. Your kids also need to know that they can express their feelings, and if they need help it will be available.

What any parent should do is take part in their child's life as much as possible, understand what they are going through, and be there for them during the tough times. It is essential, when trying to raise your children, to have a positive relationship with them and great communication at all times.

It is no secret that satisfied children constitutes a content family. And one confirmed way of keeping the kids happy is to take a lot of photos of them and place them up around the house. This really is simple enough if you possess the correct personal computer printing device. If you do not, don't get worried, these are relatively inexpensively. Talk with your local personal computer store right now.




About the Author:



How To Find Love in the Right Place

By Bobby Pivens


One of the main things people are scared of when dating online is looking desperate. With careers flying off, people just don't have time to date in real life. The number one way people meet their spouse is through friends. Try connecting to people and making friends and they will introduce you to other friends.

You want to be sure that you can connect with that people so if you like dating black people take a look at black single connection. The site above is specific to black people, but if you are into other races or a general dating site, you can check that out too. It really does not matter if you are black or white, everyone is out there looking for love. The best way to do it is to attack it from all angles and try online dating along with meeting people at bars.

Another good black dating site is called black dating women. Just looking at this site, you'll see that there are plenty of single people out there in the world. What is funny is that the internet is so vast that there are even sites like this where to meet white men who date black women. These speciality sites are cropping up more and more.

In conclusion, do not fret and make the best of you life and try online dating. Chances are that you will learn a thing or two about online dating. The good thing about dating around is that you realize what kind of person you are looking for.

You can have an open heart and an open mind and be mindful of the things that can make you fall in love. Just know that falling in love and finding the right person can happen at any time and any place.




About the Author: