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Listening Carefully Is One Of The Paths To Achieve Success

By Rudolf Wood


Having good listening skills is important to learning, as well as understanding what is being said. These are important things for the success of every job, class and even our relationships, so listen up and read on.

Learning to listen means paying attention when someone is talking. Keeping your mind from wandering is one of the key parts of the process, but if you can master the tricks, then you will be astounded at how different your life can be.

If you ever were caught in a situation where you were not paying attention, then you know the feeling of being caught all too well. Learning to listen means keying in on things that will help you to stay focused and engaged.

One way to avoid getting embarrassed is to turn off the noise in the room that can grab your attention from the person talking. That means not answering the phone, keeping the radio down and turning off the computer. Eliminating these things can keep you from getting busted.

Trying to stay focused when listening to someone talk means not jumping to conclusions when we hear something that we understand. Sometimes we can easily key in on that one thing and then ignore the rest of what the person is trying to tell us.

Letting the person finish talking is the important part of listening actively. Even if you know where the conversation is going, give the person the chance to finish. It's polite, and you may actually learn something you didn't know.

One way to help stay focused is to keep eye contact with the person speaking. This will help you to stay involved in the conversation without drifting off to daydreaming. You don't have to stare them down, but look at them and try and see their body language as an extension of the conversation.

In fact, there is a good chance that you will get more out of the conversation by watching their expressions and body language then you would just by hearing their voice. So, pay attention and be an active listener and you will remember more.




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Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back Review

By Carlos Santa


I never thought I'd have to write about how to get a girlfriend back. I was always in a happy stable relationship, so I thought, and never saw the day coming when she said she never wanted to see me again. It was one of the worst times of my life, I almost didn't recover, however I found the strength inside of me to address the situation the right way.

I was in a real funk when my ex left. It really affected everything in my life, from work and personal to many other areas. I can't remember a time in my life I was so devastated.

When I tried looking around for information, nothing really felt right - it didn't feel genuine or real, it just felt like there was no real option to consider when I was trying to get her back. All the posts on the internet felt like they were just there to sell internet advertising space.

I forget how I stumbled onto the get your ex back system, but somehow I did. I remember thinking that it was just another product just meant to fill space. I looked through some of the reviews, and decided to buy it partly because of recommendations from people, and partly because of the fact that there was a generous 60 day money back guarantee backed up by Clickbank, one of the better companies to buy from on the internet. I've purchased items from clickbank before, and when I've done a few returns, I've never had any hassles during the return process, so I felt comfortable trying out the product.

The guide was well written and comprehensive. It was organized so that it could be read, and that I got the majority of the information out of it. I'm glad that I went through the guide, and that I'll have it as a reference for later on.

I used a number o the techniques, and it helped me get my ex back personally. I never thought it would work, but somehow it easily did. It really is the best book I've read on the topic.

These days, I'm back happily married and we're a stronger couple because of our situation. I'd be happy to recommend this book to anyone, and please look at my site to see my other reviews.




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Covert Hypnosis--Hypnosis Techniques Practiced In Dysfunctional Families

By David Drake


Covert hypnosis is being practiced all of the time around you. People are using it in relationships, advertising, and even politics. It must be deeply considered that people who use covert hypnosis in many real life scenarios do so accidentally. Their actions are hypnotic because their actions alter your state of mind to a degree that empowers them to interfere with your decision making patterns.

When people use covert hypnosis techniques instinctively, this is often the result of a person's instinctive nature to influence and persuade other people in indirect ways. A classic example of covert hypnosis being practiced accidentally could be a dysfunctional family. Dysfunctional families, needless to say, are not good things, but there are still powerful hypnotic secrets that reside in every dysfunctional family.

Dysfunctional families use literally every single hypnosis technique in the book to manipulate, to control, to get needs met, and to defend against the control methods of other family members. Certain members of the dysfunctional family are the controllers and manipulators, whilst some members of the family are the defenders who are trying to get their needs met. What this reveals is that even in dysfunctional families hypnosis techniques are used for different purposes.

Oddly enough, the covert hypnosis techniques that are applied by members of a dysfunctional family are not only strategic but also linguistic. Scientific studies have shown that members of dysfunctional families are using embedded commandments, hypnotic presuppositions, frame control, hypnotic story telling, and even hypnotic ambiguities to converse with each other. These observations have unlocked one very powerful mystery about covert hypnosis.

The secret is that in order for covert hypnosis techniques to be successfully used, that you must first have rapport with the person whom you are attempting to hypnotize and persuade. The more rapport you can establish with a person, the more deeper your covert hypnosis techniques will influence them. For that reason dysfunctional families are very skillful at using hypnotic forms of communication, because the members of the dysfunctional families have strong rapport with the members of their households.

Most covert hypnosis practitioners overlook the need to establish the foundation of rapport with a person. This means that they try to use covert hypnosis techniques to influence and persuade people without first using their hypnosis tactics to get to know people so that they can establish rapport with them. There are many different ways a hypnotist can establish rapport with a person, but the best way to do this is to simply build agreement between you and the person whom you are attempting to hypnotize.

By observing dysfunctional families and how they correspond, Dr. Jonathan Conrad Groves was able to know covert hypnosis on much more deeper levels than it was ever previously understood. Dysfunctional families, like public speakers and television evangelist, are using covert hypnosis tactics to influence and persuade people, whether they are aware of it or not.




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Having An Argument With Your Boyfriend? - 3 Stupid Mistakes Women Make In A Fight

By Sarah Scott


Pretty much everyone is going to lose their cool sooner or later and give their boyfriend a piece of their mind. I'm not going to pretend that arguments are not going to happen. They will, but there's no sense saying something stupid while you're fighting about house work or what to eat for dinner.

Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #1 - Telling Him You're Pregnant

Some women may think that telling a man that a little bundle of joy is on the way is going to get him to stay with her. Don't even think of trying this. For a lot of women, thinking about becoming a parent might be enough to get them to stick it out with a guy, but if you and your boyfriend have been having trouble, this is the last thing he wants to hear from you.

To start with, he'll feel unhappy because he'll think you're trapping him. Honestly, if he is feeling miserable with you, he isn't going to feel good about the idea of being trapped with someone that makes him feel miserable.

If it is true you're pregnant, your boyfriend will immediately feel scared and probably try to convince you that having an abortion is the best plan of action. TV likes to depict men as brainless buffoons, but really most men aren't fools. They know that bringing a child into a struggling relationship isn't going to fix things.

If you're lying about it, your boyfriend will find out sooner or later when you're entering your third trimester and you can still fit into your size four jeans. Is it really going to make things better if he thinks you're liar and manipulator in addition to all the other problems going on?

Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #2 - Telling Him You Had an Affair

Sometime things can get out of hand and you just want to make him feel some agony. Maybe you want to simply tell him that you hooked up with one of your coworkers that time you were working late at your workplace. There's nothing to feel bad about, most people have been there. But how is this going to help you out? If you tell this to a man, he'll feel really foolish and stupid for ever trusting a woman like you that sleeps around.

All this will do is get you noticed as a cheater. Now, I'm going out on a limb here and I'm guessing that this isn't exactly the kind of reputation you're wanting for yourself.

Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #3 - Telling Him His Unit is 2 Sizes Too Small

This is definitely something you really don't want to mention. Needless to say you will probably succeed in making him feel insecure. However, you'll just be cutting yourself down as well.

This will only make you look extremely superficial like all that you care about is size. This will only make you come off as the female equal to one of those guys that drools over every pair of long legs that walks by. This isn't how a stylish woman acts.

These 3 blunders are things that women seem to do on a regular basis despite the fact that they simply end up backfiring on them. Trust me, I know how hard it can be in the heat of the moment to stay cool, but you need to make sure that you act like a sophisticated and stylish woman. It may be tempting to try to humiliate your boyfriend, but it's critical not to pull yourself down simultaneously.

Plus, the more dumb things you say, the more damage you're going to need to repair to save your relationship. I know it's hard to do so in the heat of the moment, but you have to keep a long-term view. Ask yourself "is this something I'm going to regret saying later?" before you blurt it out.




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Make A Man Commit - 3 Effective Ways To Make Him Want You Seriously

By Suzy Weiss


You may have been dating and man for only a few months but the feeling you have about him is very different for the other guys you have dated. At this time, you might be pondering what that can be done to make a man commit. It starts with knowing that you are truly into him. Just as much as you're desperate to understand him and to truly know if he has the same feelings for you, you need to slow the pace of this budding romance. The sad truth is, that how far this relationship goes will continue to be mostly up to the guy. But there is one thing that can be done to influence him to believe he is able to commit to you.

Women have this idea that men have commitment phobias. This is not entirely true. A guy might want to have fun by not dating exclusively. But once he finds a woman who is hard to let go of, he would consider committing.

However, the man you are dating may also be not ready for you. He's not scared of commitment. He may actually be looking for one. Maybe he's just looking for some qualities and deep connection. You may have not shown those attributes yet, but don't start celebrating. This article is specially written for you.

You may be going out with a guy for awhile now and you see him as genuine boyfriend-material. If you're wondering if he'll be serious with you, here are three effective ways to make a man commit and keep him committed to you.

1. Shower him with compliments. Yes, it's a fact that men protect and take care of their egos. But this is not the purpose why you'll be giving him compliments. You should be doing this to show him that you appreciate his good qualities. Not only will your man feel more confident, he will also feel that you're making him better. Guys who consider going into a serious relationship find women who make them become a better person. So, whenever your man does something good, commend him for that. Appreciate his looks by complimenting his fashion. When you're out with your friends, let him hear how you brag about him. If he gets promoted on his job, express how much you're proud of his accomplishments.

Do not attempt to transform your guy as if he is a remodeling project. The men are turned off by ladies who are command and control freaks. By no means attempt to reprogram your guy as if he were a cult member. You will be able to speak to him about specific things (even uncomfortable subjects), but in no way make an effort to change him. Allow him adjust his tactics by himself. Never challenge him and require that you would like him to become like this or that. He can undoubtedly be put off in the event you continue bossing him all over the place. Lead him to believe you recognize him for what he is and are ok with it.

Really do not press him to devote himself only to you, too quickly. Just as much as you dislike to have to wait, you need to go his tempo as well. Never create the faux paux of pushing him to offer the "commitment chat" too early on. Steer clear of inquiring with him exactly where your romantic relationship will go or if he could be seriously interested in you. Allow him become more available about the subject when he is prepared. The harder you force him to commit, the much more likely that he will steer clear of you all together. On the other hand, don't be a push over either, know when to call it quits.

The male species may be hard to understand sometimes, but men can be loving and caring, too. Not all guys are jerks and repulsive when it comes to commitment. Show him that you are worth it, and this is all it takes to make a man commit and love you.




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