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Changing Ourselves To Become Better People

By David D. Moore


Appearances can be deceptive. Something flaunting as new might actually be old. New days are generally spent with the same people. Events happen to you all the time. They may seem new to you, but they might just be repetitions of an old pattern. This world of ours runs in cycles. Hence, names and places change over time but people remain the same. Every human in the world has the same trends of selfishness, greed, cruelty, compassion or kindness. 


The past and the present exist only when compared to the present moment. They are what determine the mainstream of your emotions and your perceptions of the world.

As time flows, the era changes with it. So even though we claim to be living in an ultra-modern age, we are in fact showing the same reactions and emotions as people before us.

Human nature is not subject to change. This is proved by the way people respond to each other and act in response to events. Their dealings change, but the way their minds operate does not.

Anyway, people's hopes that we will eventually see a kinder world have not improved with time. Both as individuals and as nations, we have failed to increase our tolerance levels for each other though we have gained knowledge rapidly. 


We treat each other the same, though we might react better to certain people. This law holds sway in relationships, families, towns, cities, nations and even the world. It is also true that a person is capable of doing anything in the right circumstances and at the right time. 


But you must know that it is your attitude that determines, to quite an extent, how you would deal with someone and how they would respond to you. And there is the obvious fact that you can control your own reactions. 


You are scared you might be rejected; you might not get what you want so you refuse to change, cling to your old beliefs, and the ego that keeps your mind from evolving. You know human nature is fundamental and unchangeable, so you might as well change yourself.




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The Mindset Differences Of Men And Women

By Louise Chasteen


The women have usually a strong contradiction in terms of their statements and the reality. They behave in such a way that it looks that everything is alright but this may not be true in reality. This situation of the mindset of the women has been discussed since centuries and the same behavior we see today. They not clearly indicate the problems and sometimes not discuss with the men to get the solution.

The women have different type of nature and their behavior changes regularly. Sometimes they are too happy and sometimes they feel very uncomfortable. Let us take the example of a very common situation that when a lady wears a dress and asks her husband for his opinion regarding the dressing. If the husband dislikes the dress or don't praise the lady and her dressing, the women sometimes get angry.

There are many things that women find very difficult to face and don't like to see in the men. These things are sometimes very hard to discover and vary woman to woman. However, a list of such things has been compiled after studying various cases and noting the points of disagreement between the husband and the wife.

The women don't like the men who are too much serious and always have an eye on their daily activities. They feel really uncomfortable being investigated time and again.

The men should also understand that watching the women and their activities can lead to the fact that the women might think that their husband don't trust them. It is also very wrong to call them repeatedly every day after an hour or so.

The bragging should be avoided on the first time dating with the women even though it may have overall very positive effect but for the first time only the women should be praised and given weight age. The bragging can make the woman uncomfortable about your personality during the first meeting. You should only focus on the woman and praise her in a way that she may impress by your personality.

Insensitivity is the major thing that most of the women don't like at all. The little sensitivity is needed in this case. They want to get the attention from the men otherwise they will be shattered in their behavior all the time.

These are just a few things that women are very sensitive about.




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The Usual Practice Of Giving Chocolate Gifts Every Christmas

By Margaret W. Hardaway


Do you know of anyone who does not like chocolate? Everyone cannot resist not eating chocolates. There are so many different chocolate gifts that you can choose from especially if your budget is tight. However, you will be surprised that there are also nice and expensive chocolate gifts for people who have limitless budget when it comes to gift giving.

Young or old alike cannot resist not nibbling on some chocolates. In fact, chocolate can be considered a universal sugar treat everyone loves to have.

Some people like plain chocolates while others like the milk or the dark ones. There are also white chocolates that you can choose to give as gifts. Some people prefer the dark chocolates wherein there is a higher amount of cocoa in it. Others like the creaminess of chocolate due to milk content. Different kinds of chocolate that taste differently yet are still considered chocolates.

Some chocolates are flavored differently by adding spice, fruits, wafers or nuts. Other even have alcohol content in them. Simply put, there is something for everyone. It all depends on what your favorite chocolate is.

Giving chocolate gifts is not hard to deliver it in the mail. You don't have to pick up your parcel at the post office but these gifts are delivered to you at home. Chocolate gifts are perfect during Christmas season.

Generally, chocolates are easy to wrap especially if they are regular shaped. However, companies are aware that other chocolates can be sold easily once they come in a nice looking box.

Other chocolate shops allow their patrons to personalize their chocolate gifts by engraving the names of the people they are presenting the gifts to. Receivers are especially delighted with this type of chocolate gifts as it is special.

Indeed, you can't go wrong giving chocolates as gift as almost everyone loves eating it. Looking for the best Christmas gift? Chocolate is the perfect gift to during this Christmas season.




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Tips For Women In Looking For Their Perfect Mate

By Martin J. Kipp


Some men may think that women don't have it hard when it comes to finding a mate. They believe that if a woman really wants a man all she has to do is put on some lipstick. This is far from the truth. Putting on a show may attract a man but a woman needs to be selective. The reality is good men aren't that easy to find.

There are a lot of reasons why a woman may be dateless. It could be by choice or it may have to do with a lack of self esteem. If you're a woman looking for a man, here's some information that may help you find love.

Start your search with a positive attitude. Being negative never helps. If you are negative and you do manage to attract someone it will probably be someone with the same outlook on life. That can be depressing. Men are usually attracted to a positive spirit. Use that knowledge to find someone special. 



Once you adopt a positive attitude, you will enjoy a variety of benefits beyond an improved love life. It will likely make your life more pleasurable and others will want to be around you more. 


In your search for a guy, it doesn't hurt to utilize some age-old flirting techniques. I'm talking about eye contact, brushing your arm against his and licking your lips. Nothing too overt or vulgar.

Don't get drunk on your date and cross the line. Men won't respect you if they think they can have you easily. It's an old-fashioned way of looking things but that doesn't make it less true. So go ahead and flirt but do it the right way. It can be fun and ease tension during a date. Your date will know by your flirting that you like him and if he likes you it will make things more comfortable.

Most importantly, you have to get started. Don't think men will come to you. Begin an active search and don't be afraid to get turned down. It's all part of the process. If you let yourself be paralyzed by fear of failure you'll never find someone. 


Once you do take that first step, remember that few people meet their soul mates on the first date. It will take time and probably numerous bad dates before you find the right guy. Don't look at the bad dates as having failed, think of them as research. They let you know what you don't want in a guy. The right one will come along in time, just don't give up.







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Important Information On How To Survive An Affair And Save Your Self Worth

By Tina Paterson


If you are betrayed, it can be one of the most painful times of your life. There is a good possibility that your marriage or relationship will not survive infidelity. However, there are cases where you can eventually return to normal. Here are some strategies on how to survive an affair.

Forgiving and Forgetting

You will have to find it in your heart to forgive this person. However, this can take a long time to occur, but you need to forgive, or your relationship may be doomed. When you hold resentment inside for a long time, it can fester over the months and years. This pent up resentment will eventually find an outlet, and it may ruin your relationship.

Discovering the Reasons for Betrayal

If you wish to stay together, you must know the reason for the infidelity. This is an another tip when trying to learn how to get over an affair. For example, this may be the ever famous "one night stand" kind of encounter. The one night stand may be the easiest to overcome, as there may not be any emotional attachments to deal with.

However, there is also the possibility that your spouse has a long term relationship with someone, and this can sometimes be very difficult. If your significant other is emotionally attached to someone else, you cannot have a successful marriage until that attachment is broken. It will take more than stating that it is over, as this person has already violated your trust.

If you decide to take him or her back, you have to set specific guidelines in the beginning. If your partner sees this other person one more time, all is lost and you are leaving. You must be willing to stick with this, to keep your self respect. If you ever tolerate it again, you may have a miserable existence.

One of the most difficult scenarios is cheating out of spite or revenge, as this situation may be doomed from the beginning. Even though two wrongs never make something right, you share equal blame with your partner. This will take a great deal of discussion and perhaps professional guidance.

Issues with Trust

Trust may be very elusive for a long time, and it may never fully return. When someone cheats of you, they now have to earn that trust over a long period of time. However, once you reconcile, do not bring the matter up again, and consider it a closed issue. As part of your terms, let your spouse or partner know that you reserve the right to leave if this current situation does not work out. At some point, you may decide that it is not worth the effort, and you should leave.

Final Thoughts

If someone cheats on you, it is important to know the real reason why. This will determine the best strategy for dealing with the problem. A one night stand may be easier to deal with than a long term affair. You must set specific boundaries on issues of trust, and he or she must know that it will never again be tolerated. You may eventually be able to forgive and trust this person, in the future. However, you may decide to change your mind and leave, so give yourself that option in the beginning. These tips may help you learn how to survive an affair.




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