7/24/08

5 Steps To Get Your Girlfriend Or Wife Back

By Nancy Pitot

Right after a breakup or marriage problems, many men are anxious to find out what they need to do to get their girl back. There are many sources of information they can use and some even have videos to help with the process.

The following steps cover the basics of a proven action plan.

Why the sudden change? Is it really sudden or has it been building over time? Has either of you experienced a life changing event recently? Is money at the heart of the problems?

What has happened in your life which would make you less attractive to her? Think long, hard, and deep to discover what she would like you to change or modify. Is money or the lack of money an issue?

Is it necessary to get a third party involved? Sometimes pastors or social counseling agencies are required to reconcile outstanding issues? Would she willing to participate? Is the third party willing to contact her directly?

All good things come to an end, and at some point you need to start looking for a new partner. Try to find someone outside of your mutual friends. Make it a point to stay in touch and occasionally meet your ex for coffee or lunch at one of your favorite old hang outs.

What did you guys do together that she really enjoyed? If you get a chance to repeat that activity, call her up and invite her out for an evening. Keep everything low key and just enjoy yourselves as in the past.

The Magic of Making Up site expands on these ideas with free videos. There are many ideas which your can pick up by just watching them. Just remember that you are not the first person who is going through this tough time, and you should use these resources to sole any marriage problems and get your girl back.

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Catch Your Cheating Husband

By Pauline Stradlen

Make a note of anything that you find which may be at all incriminating. You will not be able to remember everything you find, as you are under more than a stress already. Keeping large amounts of information in your mind is a difficult task at the best of times.

You must keep track of all suspicious activities, including the dates and times. An example of this would be if your husband goes to the gym, yet when he gets back his towel is neither wet not smelly. You will be able to track patterns in his behaviour when you have all the information written down.

Pay close attention to all the things you husband says and does. You may not be sure if your husband has actually changed his behaviour from one day to the next as you have so much on your mind, however if you have it all written down you'll be completely confident that some crucial behaviour of his has changed. Or more importantly that he has created a new one.

It is completely up to you how far you want to look into your husband's personal life. Some people believe there are certain boundaries that should not be crossed, but it is up to you to do whatever you feel comfortable with. Remember that if he is cheating the end will always justify the means.

Your phone bill is one of the most important things that you should keep track of, if you notice numbers popping up on a regular basis that you don't recognize, you should make note of them and run them through an online service to get information on the owner. It is a very simple mistake that your husband could make to call his new girlfriend on your phone, but is highly possible that he has done it.

When you are looking for evidence, and more importantly when you have found it, make careful notes of everything. Make sure that you don't leave any evidence of your investigation behind you, this means you should make copies of any and all paperwork or e-mails, leave the originals where you found them. You do not want to make your husband suspicious until you are sure you have the evidence to confront him.

If you think you are ready to confront your husband, and hands all the evidence you need, make sure you plan it properly. Have all the accusations and evidence in front of you, make notes and follow them. You must be sure that your case is watertight at this point, don't confront him until you are confident he is cheating. This will be a very emotional time for both of you, and you should be ready for him to continue lying. You must be strong and you must be prepared.

Remember to always follow your intuition, it will lead you to the truth eventually.

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Some Useful Advice For Winning Back Your Lover

By Allison Thompson

There comes a time in your life when you will lose someone that you love due to a break up. But as well as being hard on you the break up will be hard on your partner as well, but this will depend on the situation which has caused the break up to occur. Just like children a good relationship need to be worked at and nurtured if it is to flourish. So it is important that you give the right amount of love and attention to your partner to make sure that you don't lose them.

When it comes to getting back together sometimes it may be just one of you wanting the other back, but other times it could be because you both want each other back. What is best though is that you both take a step back from this relationship and just let things be just for now. In fact agreeing to break up with your lover can sometimes be the best thing that you do and is a great way of using reverse psychology on them to help you try and win your lover back. So immediately after you have separated start to show them that you feel this is a positive step in the right direction and how much better your life will be in the future without them.

Certainly the worse thing any person can do after they have broken up recently with someone is to act all needy. As the saying goes "no one needs the needy". The quickest way of turning your lover off is by acting all clingy and showing that you can't cope with letting them go. Yes dealing with the breakup of a relationship can be extremely difficult, but don't let them know this and if you do need to cry and scream do it behind closed doors.

When you are trying to rebuild that relationship with your lover then it is best to stop all forms of communication with them. Although this may seem like a bad idea in fact it is possibly the best thing that you can do as a man. Often because you have stopped communicating then your lover may suddenly realize just what is they love about you and how much they miss and may want to try working on the relationship once again. However, this won't happen with every relationship you have when it breaks up.

Also it is important that you don't spend time at home sulking alone after the relationship has come to an end, but rather get out and about with your friends and start enjoying life once more. As they often say laughter is the best medicine for whatever ails you and this includes a broken heart. But you shouldn't start dating straight away or going out with someone who may at a later stage become a lover, instead just go out and have some fun with your friends.

Just because the relationship has ended because your lover has become bored with you it is not the right time for you to make changes which you hope will get them back. Rather it is best that you think about those things which made them fall in love with you initially and then work on accenting those more to show them just what they are missing.

But although these tips can help at trying to help you win back your lover at the end of the day whether they come back to your or not is their decision. You can't force a person into loving you or to keep on loving you and certainly of all the emotions a person feels, love is among the strongest. This is an emotion which one should not toy with, no matter how badly you want the other person back.

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