7/24/08

Catch Your Cheating Husband

By Pauline Stradlen

Make a note of anything that you find which may be at all incriminating. You will not be able to remember everything you find, as you are under more than a stress already. Keeping large amounts of information in your mind is a difficult task at the best of times.

You must keep track of all suspicious activities, including the dates and times. An example of this would be if your husband goes to the gym, yet when he gets back his towel is neither wet not smelly. You will be able to track patterns in his behaviour when you have all the information written down.

Pay close attention to all the things you husband says and does. You may not be sure if your husband has actually changed his behaviour from one day to the next as you have so much on your mind, however if you have it all written down you'll be completely confident that some crucial behaviour of his has changed. Or more importantly that he has created a new one.

It is completely up to you how far you want to look into your husband's personal life. Some people believe there are certain boundaries that should not be crossed, but it is up to you to do whatever you feel comfortable with. Remember that if he is cheating the end will always justify the means.

Your phone bill is one of the most important things that you should keep track of, if you notice numbers popping up on a regular basis that you don't recognize, you should make note of them and run them through an online service to get information on the owner. It is a very simple mistake that your husband could make to call his new girlfriend on your phone, but is highly possible that he has done it.

When you are looking for evidence, and more importantly when you have found it, make careful notes of everything. Make sure that you don't leave any evidence of your investigation behind you, this means you should make copies of any and all paperwork or e-mails, leave the originals where you found them. You do not want to make your husband suspicious until you are sure you have the evidence to confront him.

If you think you are ready to confront your husband, and hands all the evidence you need, make sure you plan it properly. Have all the accusations and evidence in front of you, make notes and follow them. You must be sure that your case is watertight at this point, don't confront him until you are confident he is cheating. This will be a very emotional time for both of you, and you should be ready for him to continue lying. You must be strong and you must be prepared.

Remember to always follow your intuition, it will lead you to the truth eventually.

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