7/30/08

Superb Honeymoon Getaways

By Peter Mason


Superb honeymoon getaways are not that hard to find, if you know what you are looking for! Consider the fact that you and your spouse will enjoy the first vacation together as a married couple and you will quickly understand why this memory maker is such an important occasion! Unfortunately, with the rising cost of weddings putting considerable strains on the budget of the average couple, there is usually precious little money to go around for the vacation, and sadly some couples are tempted to skimp on they honeymoon getaways.

Fortunately for you, the honeymooning couple means big business to many a travel agency, cruise line, and also hotel and it is thus not surprising that special honeymoon packages with discounted rates are quite frequently made available. Of course, there is a lot more to a superb honeymoon locale than just a price that is right ? you and your new spouse must agree that this location has everything you are both looking for and more!

If you are both avid beach lovers, then even the nicest mountain resort will most likely not suffice. Conversely, if you both dislike gambling immensely, a trip to Las Vegas ? albeit cheap ? is most likely not going to be the trip of a lifetime worth remembering. Rather than shopping by price, style your own superb getaways by thinking through all the activities you would like to do when on your honeymoon and then work backwards in trying to find a location that offers them. Once you have found the locations, find one that is budget friendly!

You may wish to engage the help of a travel agent who can steer you in the right direction and may also be able to find you some great deals on tickets and entry fees for the activities you will pursue once there. In addition to the foregoing, remember that with the wedding in the works, you will be busy planning and deciding enough as it is, and adding travel arrangements to the mix might be a little much. Granted, you will need to pay a little extra for the service you are receiving, but considering that all travel arrangements will be made professionally with boarding passes in place, connecting flights organized, a rental car waiting, and a hotel room reserved, the fact that nothing goes by the wayside and is forgotten is well worth the fee.

Remember that your honeymoon is an investment and as such you will want to ensure a good return on this investment. Saving money in the wrong area will result in only a marginal experience and perhaps a lot of frustration as you seek to change rooms, hotels, or even airlines! Instead, enjoy the location, the activities, shopping for gifts and most importantly ? each other!

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5 Tips to Help You Win Your Ex Back

By Erik J. Michaels


A hard breakup can make folks go to pieces, and picking yourself up for an honest effort to get your ex back can be really difficult. These 5 tips are to help give you an easier time of trying to make things work out for the best.

1. Breakup pain hurts, but it's no reason to let your life pass you by. Letting your pain get the best of you and keep you from living your life only creates more problems for you to have to deal with. If you're going to come out on top of all this, you're going to need to find the strength to keep going regardless of how much pain you feel over this breakup. It's natural to feel it, but don't let it control you or hold you down.

2. There are a lot of escapes people turn to in order to lessen their pain. Many of them aren't particularly bad for you, but one in particular that can make everything worse is unfortunately the most common: substance abuse. I'm not saying one drink now and again to take the edge off will ruin your life, but a lot of broken-hearted, depressed people will turn to binge drinking or drugs to drown their pain...this only makes things worse. Find healthy ways to deal with your pain, instead of adding more trouble to your life.

3. Cut off all contact with your ex for about a month. This has an entire list of positive effects, but the main one you should worry about right now is the break it gives you to pull yourself together before trying to get him back. The time away from each other will help both of you balance yourselves out, so that things can run more smoothly after the month is up.

4. Go by your head, not your heart. Emotional turmoil like this can lead you astray where your mind knows you shouldn't go. Trust in a solid plan, not in whatever your first impulses are.

5. Be willing to accept that you two may not be destined to be together...but don't let that hold you back from giving it your best. 95% of breakups can be fixed if handled properly, but there is that chance that you two aren't each others' true soulmates. Be prepared for that possibility, but do your best to solve the problems you face.

These 5 words of advice should help you a lot in getting through this time and coming out successfully living your life, but only if you heed what they say. Remember this information, and you should have a lot simpler time surviving this breakup.

The best advice I can possibly give you right now is to make sure you have a plan. This is a great thing to be working on during that month of no contact, and it'll really come in handy when that time is up and it's time to work towards getting him back. Going into this without a plan or underlying strategy just isn't wise, and you'll probably find yourself having a lot harder of a time without it.

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How to deal with an affair when your spouse cheats on you.

By Carmela King


Finding out that your spouse is having an extra-marital affair is definitely a heartbreaking experience for anyone. You can even find yourself in situations which, due to your emotional outburst and anger, you have resorted to some embarrassing acts just to release the pain caused by cheating. There are news of a husband climbing towers to commit suicide after knowing his wife is having an affair, a woman gate-crashing a party to confront another woman which happens to be her best friend, such stories which are almost comical for other people to hear or see but very real and painful to those who is actually experiencing it. It is expected because having an extra marital affair shakes the entire foundation of marriage which is trust and faith. It is very easy to get carried to your emotions under these circumstances, but what will happen next after? Will you be able to carry out yourself gracefully from the humiliating acts you have done to vent out your frustrations and anger? What should anyone do in the face of this kind of marital dilemma?

First thing you can do is, yes, to recognize the pain. Don't deny yourself the fact that it can also happen to you even if you think you are the perfect couple. Allow yourself to grieve but do not wallow in despair too much as if there's no way to turn back things around. It's now time to be proactive rather than clingy or hyper emotional.

Secondly, again this will take intense humility and self-control to the offended party, is setting-up a conversation. Discussion leads to understanding and understanding leads to options. You can do this with only the two of you talking or if both parties agree, with a neutral third party who can help you see things which both of you may neglect because of the emotional tension both covering the two of you. Set a definite time for these when both parties are calm and sane enough to discuss. After all, your marriage deserves a chance to the informations you will come up from having this kind of talk.

To be able to answer this, you should first consider the other aspects of your life rather than focusing on each other's personal happiness. You have already invested on a lot of things as you went on your married life - your home, children, relatives, friends, and finances are all a part of these. It was not only about feeling married but having a life together. And you have to consider all of these aspects when you decide whether you want to commit yourself again to the same person you are with when you started your life you are now into.

In choosing the right person who will mediate you in the process of resolving, in case you have decided to seek one, choose the one who will see the situation in general and who does not tend to incline on either party. Do not feel embarrassed that you have to undergo this kind of discussion. A professional counselor, a spiritual elder, a trusted mature friend, these can prove valuable to the couple and could offer insights, observations and options that the couple might not be able to see right away amid the hurt. Professional counselors would also have the scientific tools, exercises and methods with which to encourage dialogue that the couple might otherwise not have access to. Upon knowing the reason why the marriage is failing will help you assess your personalities at the same time. In fact, even though you are still hurting on these moments, it may be the perfect time for growth. Take this opportunity to re-examine your expectations and inspirations within your marriage and maybe even improve your confidence and well-being.

Yes, the period of time you are trying to mend marriage and resolving conflicts is the perfect time to work on your personal strengths. If you are the offending party, be able to contribute and take efforts to save the marriage. End the affair and keep your promise while taking time to regain trust from your partner. On the other, the offended spouse can work on rebuilding her self-esteem, learning how to understand her reactions and all in all becoming a whole person in herself and an active partner in the relationship. And then do the works together. Spend a vacation together or just spend more time together. If the pain is searing back again, try to overcome it by remembering your most happy days. And then do small acts of love to each other, just the way you have been doing on the first years of your marriage. Establish intimacy slowly but surely and you might ignite the passion which may have diminished by time. By doing this, you will be gradually putting yourselves back in track of your married life.

In general, dealing with a cheating partner is not about getting even, but modestly facing the challenge that the situation puts you into and taking it as an opportunity to take your married life into a deeper and stronger union.

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Helping Hurting Hearts One e-Mail at a Time

By Chaszey Sandhriel

Plenty of lonely hearts are looking for love Online. The problem is, many are frustrated and disenchanted with the process. People are either meeting the wrong people or worse, they are not meeting anyone at all. Some are turning to specialized Online Dating Coaches, like Chaszey Sandhriel.

Chaszey says: "Most people don't realize that what they truly want in a partner contradicts who they are themselves at the core. They are one thing and desire another." She adds: "The beginning of successful Online dating starts with a profile that is unique because it projects the strength of who you are, because it shows your most authentic Self and because you are honestly communicating who you are really looking for in a partner."

A successful profile can be put together remembering these three important steps:

1. A successful screen name When we first create our screen names we forget that the screen name we choose communicates poems, or not, to people who will be looking at our profile. Screen names like "TiredofmyJob," "WhoseYourDaddy," "WorshipMe" will not get you the results that you're looking for, no matter how great your personal profile reads. Pick a screen name where people cannot read between the lines trying to figure out what you're trying to communicate with it.

2. Choosing photos that work "People don't realize that the main headshot is what many people base their decision on and based on this one picture some may never even look at the profile, so your main photo is the most important one," says Chaszey. It's amazing to see how many people put photos up wearing their sunglasses and baseball cap, covering just about anything important. This will result in many people never even opening up their profile. Your main photo should show your eyes and your face and you should not wear a hat, even if you're bald. Photos that produce result show your eyes and face and you look into the camera. Photos should show you in a variety of settings, headshot, half body shot and full body shot. This is not the time to hide what you look like, this is the time to be honest.

3. Your profile Give an accurate and true picture when describing yourself. People don't realize that online dating is not a writing contest and no awards are given anywhere to anyone. This is an attempt of the heart to finding that true love that you so deserve. Yet people try to do so by falsefying their profiles, making themselves sound like they want to be, rather than who they truly are. They don't realize that by giving a false picture of themselves, no matter how great it sounds, never allows for that true love to come into their space. It's a contradiction and it can only go one way: the wrong way. Instead, be honest, sincere, ethical and authentic. Don't worry about what others think of you, it's none of your business. Worry about accurately describing yourself so you can attract that one special person.

4. Be clear when describing the partner you want to attract to you Most people are asking for someone with qualities that they themselves have not mastered yet. Your spouse just dumped you because you cheated and now you make it clear in your profile that you're looking for someone honest and loyal. It's a contradiction. Once you get clear with who you are and you're able to truly look at every aspect of what has created you, then you can honestly and open-eyed look at the person you want to attract to yourself. Only when you can get crystal clear with who you are can you can ever clearer with whom you want.

Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online Dating Coach and helps Online Daters create sizzling results. You can visit her at www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com or call her at 415.419.7952.

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Only You Can Stop Autism Stereotypes

By Smith Roberts

The autistic people have too regularly endure a lot of varied reactions from the people they meet. The reactions can include full support to bad reactions. Generally folks just do not know much about autism even individuals who are very affectionate toward autistic individuals. People, regardless of intentions, often have a stereotypical image of the autistic child. The only thing that can solve people's misconceptions about autism is education. If you are the parent of an autistic child, do not be afraid to explain to others how to deal with your child.

It is most significant to note that not every autistic person is the same. Other diseases and disorders have their own rigid diagnostic rules, but autism is such a complex medical condition that there are many varying degrees of diagnosis. Most of the time, those diagnosed with autism are rated on a functional scale. The more highly functional people are able to hold down jobs and take care themselves for the most part, while the neediest ones, low functioning, sometimes require 24-7 care. Some of the symptoms of autism include behavioral problems, uncontrolled movements, problems communicating, and problems expressing emotion. Some show all symptoms, while other show few, and still others may have most under control to the point where you cannot tell they have autism at all.

Because every person is different, no one thing can be said about autism and be true overall. The one thing that is a re-occurring theme in autistic people is that they can't express their emotions like they would like to. This does not mean that an autistic person does not feel. He or she simply cannot express this feeling. It also does not mean strong relationship bonds are not possible. On the contrary, many autistic people are happily married and in love. If not always easy for the autistic person, but with time it can happen.

Many people suppose that being autistic coincides with being a genius. While it is true that some autistic individuals have extraordinary math, music, and art skills, this number is nowhere near the majority. In fact, relatively few autistic people function outside of the normal range in any skill. This stereotype is perpetuated in the movies and on television, because the story of a talented person fighting disadvantages (such as autism) makes a good plot. However, this is not the norm, so nothing more than the best they can individually do should be expected from an autistic person.

If there's one idea that you need to know about autism, it is that we need to be more tolerant of those who have the condition. Patience goes a long way when dealing with people with autism. Just be sure to educate yourself about the disorder, and your encounters with them will go much more effectively. Then to share what you know with others around you about how to deal with and the more tolerant of the autistic.

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6 Tips to Help You Win Your Ex Back

By Erik J. Michaels

After a breakup, when your life is in shambles, sometimes all you want is a little help getting your life back together and getting a second chance with the love of your life. Unfortunately, help like that can be hard to find...but you don't have to scavenge through cyberspace anymore looking for help...you've found it! Here are several tips to help you raise the odds of successfully getting your ex back.

1) Odd as it may seem, one of the first things you need to do is break off contact with your ex for about a month. Resist all urges to contact him! If you don't give your ex some room, nothing'll ever work out...he needs some time to miss you! As a bonus, you get some time to clear your head as well.

2) Don't let Hollywood fool you...sliding into a rock-bottom slump until your caring friends take care of everything for you or your ex calls you up out of the blue to get back together does NOT happen in real life. The only person you can count on is yourself, so find the motivation to rise above your depression and take back your life.

3) Just because you are your only main resource doesn't mean you can't have a little support. Being with great friends or close family can do wonders for you, uplifting your spirits and helping you heal. I recommend spending a lot of time with people who love you, it'll do you a lot of good and when you feel better you'll be better-equipped to get him back.

4) Take some pride in yourself, and enjoy your life in spite of the pain. Now's the time to look your best ALL the time, and avoid idle sadness by keeping busy in social environments. Do a full inventory of your physical appearance and change anything you don't like, and then strut your stuff out in the clubs or parties. Looking good combined with the attention you'll get from local singles will help build your self-confidence back up, and may even inspire a little jealousy in your ex...who may be having a rougher time of things.

5) Always remember that you can only rely on yourself to get your ex back. He's not going to change, so the things he needed from you aren't going to either. Trying to get him back if the relationship's just going to be the same as before is just a waste of your time and his, as well as risking a lot more emotional damage for both of you. This is a time of change, so don't be afraid to put some work into yourself...your own personality is your best investment, you always get back 200% of what you put into it.

6) Don't assume that the battle is over because you've gotten him back. You still need to take care to avoid letting the relationship fall through again. The reasons it went south the first time may still threaten it if you're not careful, and new things are always popping up. Many problems can be anticipated and avoided, but you can't foresee everything. All you can do is try to support your partner's needs as you two take on the world.

Remember these tips, and you should find that your entire experience pursuing your ex for another try will be a whole lot easier to get through, and far more likely to succeed. It doesn't have to be the end of the world when you break up with a loved one...and hopefully this article has helped you to see that. Good luck!

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Making Up, How to Do It

By Ricardo d Argence

I've seen it happen many times. Everytime some friend breack ups with her girlfriend, they fall to pieces and fall to the usual steps: call her day and night, get drunk and call her at 3 am saying how sorry they are, following her around the city and try to find out what she is doing or who is she seeing. All these only make them look patetic and needy. Let me put three easy steps to take that can pad the way to get your ex back.

1. Agree with the break up. What you are telling your ex girlfriend is that you have moved on and you are over her. This will make you more interesting to her. Even if this is hard for you, do it. This is just the beginning.

You know this isn't true, but your ex will feel attracted to you again because she will think that she can't have you have. Just a little reverse psychology. If she call you, just remain calm and cool. You will notice how she changes whenever she has to call you or receives a message from you. Do not ignore her, but just act cool. You'll see the magic of this technique work a couple of days after.

2. After you have called to tell her that you agree about breaking up, wait some time to call her again. The more you wait, the more her interest will rise, so don't rush things.

You must show confidence about yourself in this step. She will be drawn to you if you show that you no longer need her and her interest will rise. At all times remain calm.

3. Keep the impression that you're not interested going. Even if the ex does call you and claims that she wants to get back together, don't just jump right in, keep the hard to get, independent and not interested vibe going. So even if she does call and asks to meet up, agree to it, but if she tries to make a move, keep away from it, resist and act as though you aren't interested. Trust me, this will build up and she will want you even more.

This is the start of your plan to win your ex girlfriend back. There's still work to do, if you really want to win her heart again.

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Getting Help for Internet Daters - Your Top 10 Reasons

By Chaszey Sandhriel

Relucant for many years about going online to get help in her dating life, Chaszey finally decided to give it a try, and she was pleasently surprised. "I don't know why I was waiting this long!" she states.

From 0 to 3 dates and with her own profile viewed over 10,000 in a four-week period, she has only great things to say about online dating. "But it needs to be done right to remain fun, safe and productive," she states.

Today, an Online Dating Coach herself, she has put together a list of her top 10 reasons for you to get yourself on the Internet:

1. Before you ever meet them you get to find out a lot about them. 2. It's a numbers game, which allows you to screen a lot more candidates in a shorter period of time, than you could in person. 3. You get to know someone right from your own home, before you ever decide to meet them in person. 4. You can get to know someone at your own timing, day or night, and you can search dozens of profiles while getting to know them on an initial level. 5. You have access to people of all backgrounds and from all over the world, which you otherwise would never even meet. 6. Online dating is a tremendous money and time saver for both men and women. 7. Online dating is especially a great tool for shy people who need to get comfortable with a person first before they warm up some. 8. Even after you get to know them via e-mail and even via telephone, you can always say "no" if your intuition tells you so. 9. You're able to run a background check on a person before you even meet them. 10. Online dating is a ton of fun (when done right).

Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online Dating Coach and helps Online Daters create sizzling results. You can visit her at www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com or call her at 415.419.7952.

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