7/30/08

Helping Hurting Hearts One e-Mail at a Time

By Chaszey Sandhriel

Plenty of lonely hearts are looking for love Online. The problem is, many are frustrated and disenchanted with the process. People are either meeting the wrong people or worse, they are not meeting anyone at all. Some are turning to specialized Online Dating Coaches, like Chaszey Sandhriel.

Chaszey says: "Most people don't realize that what they truly want in a partner contradicts who they are themselves at the core. They are one thing and desire another." She adds: "The beginning of successful Online dating starts with a profile that is unique because it projects the strength of who you are, because it shows your most authentic Self and because you are honestly communicating who you are really looking for in a partner."

A successful profile can be put together remembering these three important steps:

1. A successful screen name When we first create our screen names we forget that the screen name we choose communicates poems, or not, to people who will be looking at our profile. Screen names like "TiredofmyJob," "WhoseYourDaddy," "WorshipMe" will not get you the results that you're looking for, no matter how great your personal profile reads. Pick a screen name where people cannot read between the lines trying to figure out what you're trying to communicate with it.

2. Choosing photos that work "People don't realize that the main headshot is what many people base their decision on and based on this one picture some may never even look at the profile, so your main photo is the most important one," says Chaszey. It's amazing to see how many people put photos up wearing their sunglasses and baseball cap, covering just about anything important. This will result in many people never even opening up their profile. Your main photo should show your eyes and your face and you should not wear a hat, even if you're bald. Photos that produce result show your eyes and face and you look into the camera. Photos should show you in a variety of settings, headshot, half body shot and full body shot. This is not the time to hide what you look like, this is the time to be honest.

3. Your profile Give an accurate and true picture when describing yourself. People don't realize that online dating is not a writing contest and no awards are given anywhere to anyone. This is an attempt of the heart to finding that true love that you so deserve. Yet people try to do so by falsefying their profiles, making themselves sound like they want to be, rather than who they truly are. They don't realize that by giving a false picture of themselves, no matter how great it sounds, never allows for that true love to come into their space. It's a contradiction and it can only go one way: the wrong way. Instead, be honest, sincere, ethical and authentic. Don't worry about what others think of you, it's none of your business. Worry about accurately describing yourself so you can attract that one special person.

4. Be clear when describing the partner you want to attract to you Most people are asking for someone with qualities that they themselves have not mastered yet. Your spouse just dumped you because you cheated and now you make it clear in your profile that you're looking for someone honest and loyal. It's a contradiction. Once you get clear with who you are and you're able to truly look at every aspect of what has created you, then you can honestly and open-eyed look at the person you want to attract to yourself. Only when you can get crystal clear with who you are can you can ever clearer with whom you want.

Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online Dating Coach and helps Online Daters create sizzling results. You can visit her at www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com or call her at 415.419.7952.

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