8/4/08

How To Bring Your Girl Back

By Justin Krawl


If you are involved in a romantic relationship you should be prepared for all possibilities, including the end of your romantic relationship. After the relationship comes to an end you will have to figure out how you are going to continue with your life. You can either move on with your life or you can figure out how to win back your ex girl.

The importance of open communication while in a relationship cannot be overstated, and now with the relationship over or at least up in the air, you'll be glad that you took the care you did to keep the lines open. By being open, your ex girlfriend has the ability to explore with you any issues about the relationship and or with any uncertainty she may be feeling about what direction the relationship is moving towards.

If you want to win back your ex girlfriend, one of the very first things you must do is reflect on the reasons why your relationship came to an end in the first place. Thinking about the causes will be useful because these issues will not magically go away. If these issues are not resolved, they will reemerge and history will repeat itself.

Wanting to get back together is good, however, to attempt to get reunited isn't going to work out very well unless your ex girlfriend sees that not only are you willing to talk about the difficulties of the relationship, but willing to work on what clearly didn't work very well the last time.

As you discuss the problems remember, you need to be willing to be honest with yourself? This can not just be lip service - you have to be willing to compromise. If you want her back you need to see why she is important and why you want her back. By seeing her side of things and seeing how she was made to feel then the break up will make more sense.

By being able to show that you can see that you have faults and are willing to try to change them she may think about taking you back. Remember, she may have decided that she wants to move on without you, but, by showing her that you want to work on the relationship she might be willing to give it another try. The most important thing at this point is to remember, compromise will be the only way to get back together with your ex.

Feel free to ask others, such as friends and family, what they saw in the relationship. This is a great way to find out how others saw your relationship. Just be prepared for the fact you might not like what everyone says. Take all the information and use it to determine what to do next.

Regardless of your wishes, when you realize what has gone wrong with your previous relationship, you can be sure that your ex girl will appreciate the effort that you have put forth to ensure that you do not make the same mistakes in the future.

Hopefully you will be able to rectify these mistakes when you figure out what went wrong the first time around. The next time may be the relationship that will transform your life forever. With some help and guidance you will be able to avoid making the same mistakes that spoiled your previous relationship. Hopefully, your ex girl will become your girlfriend once again.

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What Does Love Mean?" See How 4-8 Year-Old Kids Describe Love

By Rob Pike


A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds: "What does love mean?"

The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think...

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"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."

Rebecca - age 8

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"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."

Billy - age 4

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"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."

Terri - age 4

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"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."

Danny - age 7

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"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss."

Emily - age 8

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"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."

Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

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"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate."

Nikka - age 6
(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

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"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."

Noelle - age 7

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"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."

Tommy - age 6

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"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.

He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."

Cindy - age 8

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"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."

Elaine - age 5

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."

Chris - age 7

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"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."

Mary Ann - age 4

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"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." (Now THIS is love!)

Lauren - age 4

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"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image!)

Karen - age 7

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"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross."

Mark - age 6

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"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

Jessica - age 8

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And the final one...

Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,

"Nothing, I just helped him cry."

Love is just the most pure and simple of things.

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