8/1/08

You Can Get Your Ex Back

By Justin Krawl


Have you just suffered through a recent breakup with your ex? Do you think it was a mistake to do so? If you do, you might be tempted to try to reconcile immediately, but don't. It's understandable that you want to "state your case" in the hopes that your ex will hear you and want you back, but it's likely only to make you more disappointed and hurt. You can, however, win back your ex in 25 days without going through this sort of heartache. There are three things you can do that will help you to be back together within 25 days.

First, be honest with yourself and see what needs to be changed if you are to reconcile with your ex. This is the hardest part, because a lot of us don't want to see our flaws or faults, and we don't want to admit that we've made mistakes. Therefore, it's pretty easy to simply push this part of the process aside and not choose to deal with our own faults head on. However, we have to if we're going to see and heal the issues within ourselves that contributed to the breakup. For example, if you lied a lot in the relationship, you have to be honest with yourself and start fixing this before you try getting back with your ex. Did your ex feel unappreciated? Did you spend enough time with him or her? You have to ask yourself a lot of hard questions before you even try to win back your ex.

Now the first thing to do is to perform an honest self assessment with yourself and explore those areas that could use improvement. It's best to write these items down so you can plainly see them. Brainstorm for two or three days, contemplating simple changes you can make to allow this relationship to flourish. This is nothing that you need to share with anyone. Instead, this is for your own reference.

After you have written these issues down, begin to think of what you can do to change them. And do not attempt a reconciliation until you've taken this assessment and worked on those issues. This is your first assignment, as well as the second step, and it is the key to winning back your ex. After you have made the changes you feel are most important to your ex, you can then go on to the next step.

The last step, after you have made the changes you feel are necessary, is to allow yourself to be seen by your ex. He or she will be surprised to see the changes you have made, and this is very intriguing. Please note, however, that this is still not the time to attempt to win him or her back. At this time, you are only attempting to impress him or her and nothing more. Just let him or her see the changes you have made which he or she desires. Also, apologize to him or her for anything you might have done wrong. Be kind but confident when you communicate with him or her. I guarantee that if you follow the steps outlined above and conclude with this final step, your ex will begin to realize it was a mistake to have left you. He or she will then become desperate to be with you again.

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Getting Your Ex Lover Back

By Justin Krawl


Most relationships can be saved following a breakup, regardless of who was at fault for the breakup in the first place. After a period of cooling off, it is more than likely that at least one of you, if not both, will be trying to think of how to get the other party back again. After a breakup, behavioral changes are common, such as not listening to certain songs which remind you of your ex. Some people instead will immediately try to salvage things; calling repeatedly trying to patch things up, or driving by their ex's home to check up on them.

The fights which can precipitate breakups are quite often because one party feels neglected or unappreciated. These sorts of feelings can fuel depression and build up over time to the point that even an argument over something very minor can lead to a breakup. These sorts of problems can be fixed, so if you've been wondering how to get your lover back, there may be hope for the relationship yet.

Both parties should be given ample opportunity to cool off. If your ex isn't taking your calls at the moment, that does not necessarily mean that there's no hope of reuniting. They might simply still be angry at you - or interested to see how badly you want to get back together.

You shouldn't make yourself appear desperate, however. Repeated calls are a bad idea here. You want them to know that you miss them; this is only natural when a couple has been together for a while. Keep the principles of reverse psychology in mind - people use it all the time to attract each other.

Before even attempting to get your lover back, however, you both need to decide on your own if this is the right decision. Were the two of you always fighting about the most minor if issues or is one partner so jealous that it is in and of itself an issue? Be honest with yourself when trying to make this decision.

Don't spy on your ex when you are trying to get your lover back. They will perceive that you don't think they are trustworthy, which will only make matters worse.

When you are in such a highly emotional state, it is all too easy to go overboard and take actions like this. You have a much better chance of reuniting if you calm down, step back and approach things more casually. When the two of you are ready to talk, do not discuss your breakup. Tell them that it may have been for the best, this will put you at an advantage in this situation.

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Tips to Help You Get Your Ex Back

By Ricardo d Argence


Are there any useful tips on getting my girlfriend back? What are the steps that I should take to get my girlfriend back? What if she is ignoring me? Do I still have a good chance or is it an indication for me to give up and move on? If you are reading this article, most probably, you still want to get back together with your ex as well.

Well, if you really believe that she is your soul mate and are meant to be together, there is no reason why you should give up so easily. You should definitely give your very best to fight for your happiness.

You have decided to get back together with your ex-lover. You will require your bond to be firmer than it was. You do not want to go through another break up again. So, before reconciling any relationship, it if first necessary to have an honest discussion of the problems that resulted in the breakup of that relationship.

However, you don't want to push her too much as it can backfire. If you have just broken up a few days ago, then you will need to be patient and take things more slowly.Avoid calling her immediately after the break up. Chances are she will ignore you. Even if you manage to reach her now, you might not know the right thing to say for the time being.

It is best to have a month to evaluate your true feelings and mend your heartache. I feel that your girlfriend also needs time for herself.

During this time, you should think about whether you want to move on or try to get her back. If you can, make an effort to avoid her for one month.

Of course, if she works or goes to school with you, most likely you will not be able to avoid seeing her on a regular basis.I f you are faced with this situation, you should not pretend that you do not see her. You don't need to talk to her if you don't want to. In fact, you will want to minimize your conversation with her. You should at the very least remain amicable and acknowledge her should you meet . If, after a month, you decide to you want your girlfriend back this will leave the door wide open.

Remember that this is just a basic technique to get start talking to her again. So, get ready to create a plan to get your ex back.

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