8/1/08

You Can Get Your Ex Back

By Justin Krawl


Have you just suffered through a recent breakup with your ex? Do you think it was a mistake to do so? If you do, you might be tempted to try to reconcile immediately, but don't. It's understandable that you want to "state your case" in the hopes that your ex will hear you and want you back, but it's likely only to make you more disappointed and hurt. You can, however, win back your ex in 25 days without going through this sort of heartache. There are three things you can do that will help you to be back together within 25 days.

First, be honest with yourself and see what needs to be changed if you are to reconcile with your ex. This is the hardest part, because a lot of us don't want to see our flaws or faults, and we don't want to admit that we've made mistakes. Therefore, it's pretty easy to simply push this part of the process aside and not choose to deal with our own faults head on. However, we have to if we're going to see and heal the issues within ourselves that contributed to the breakup. For example, if you lied a lot in the relationship, you have to be honest with yourself and start fixing this before you try getting back with your ex. Did your ex feel unappreciated? Did you spend enough time with him or her? You have to ask yourself a lot of hard questions before you even try to win back your ex.

Now the first thing to do is to perform an honest self assessment with yourself and explore those areas that could use improvement. It's best to write these items down so you can plainly see them. Brainstorm for two or three days, contemplating simple changes you can make to allow this relationship to flourish. This is nothing that you need to share with anyone. Instead, this is for your own reference.

After you have written these issues down, begin to think of what you can do to change them. And do not attempt a reconciliation until you've taken this assessment and worked on those issues. This is your first assignment, as well as the second step, and it is the key to winning back your ex. After you have made the changes you feel are most important to your ex, you can then go on to the next step.

The last step, after you have made the changes you feel are necessary, is to allow yourself to be seen by your ex. He or she will be surprised to see the changes you have made, and this is very intriguing. Please note, however, that this is still not the time to attempt to win him or her back. At this time, you are only attempting to impress him or her and nothing more. Just let him or her see the changes you have made which he or she desires. Also, apologize to him or her for anything you might have done wrong. Be kind but confident when you communicate with him or her. I guarantee that if you follow the steps outlined above and conclude with this final step, your ex will begin to realize it was a mistake to have left you. He or she will then become desperate to be with you again.

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