We never appreciate what we have until we lose it. There may be a number of things about your woman that you find annoying that make you imagine how great life could be without these irritations. Often, we fall into knee-jerk patterns where the slightest thing touches off a fight over the usual grievances.
In the heat of the moment, we blurt out our desire to separate. Then the we sense the huge abyss created by her absence and we know that a terrible mistake was made. If this describes you then you need to take some time to reflect and collect your thoughts about your relationship. The following article should help to guide your thoughts.
1.) Do you have serious doubts about getting back together with your ex? If so, some careful thought about why you wish to continue your relationship is needed. Remember the reasons for the break up in the first place. Will they happen again? If so, what will you do differently? Remember, changing your behavior is very difficult.
It seems pointless to keep going if more conflicts and breakups occur in the future. Make sure that you aren't motivated out of fear of the unknown, of loneliness, or of being single. Why condemn yourself to a bad relationship when a better one is just around the corner. The worse your current circumstances are, the better the odds that any change will be an improvement.
2.) Be honest with yourself and admit to your shortcomings and actions. No matter what you did, anger makes you rationalize and justify your behavior. It will always shift the blame away from yourself. The necessary changes cannot be made until you break free of this trap.
Taking responsibility is a sign of maturity and strength. Women are attracted by this. You should never force her to accept blame for her transgressions. There's no surer way to stir up more conflict. This sort of coercion doesn't work with an adult. This is how you would treat a child, not your ex.
3.) If you want your reconciliation to last, then the improvements and changes that you've made must be permanent. Reverting back to your old ways will only cause the relationship to revert back to it's usual problems and conflicts. So don't let old habits sabotage your efforts.
Taking some time to cool off and to think is vital to deciding what to do next. What you choose to do after a breakup with your girl will have a profound impact on your future relationship. Take your time, Use your head, and then choose your next course of action.
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