3/27/11

Bad Guy or Nice Fellow - Which Will Get You More Dates?

By Mike Morton


It takes time to establish and nurture a relationship between a man and a woman. When looking for a potential boyfriend or husband, a woman already has a set of characteristics in mind, a checklist of sorts, when meeting guys. Everything starts with crossing out items in this checklist, which may be personality traits, professional background, behavior, and many other things.

So before you go embark on that dating quest, it pays to know yourself through and through. Find out your strengths and weaknesses, how much information you're willing to disclose and how much you'll keep to yourself. First impressions last, so think about how you want to come across to your date. But don't pressure yourself too much. After all, the goal of the night is for both of you to have a great time.

When you get that connection, that rapport, with your date on day one, then half the work is done. Sometimes, that's all it takes to start a relationship with your date. Having that connection requires some work though, and feeling that spark between the two of you is more of the exception than the rule. If there was a formula to get that spark on a first date, then people wouldn't need dating services!

You want to get to know her well, and you've probably got a lot of questions in mind. After all, the reason why you asked her out is because you felt attracted to her. Get a good conversation going, ask her about her job, hobbies and family, but don't bombard her with questions one after the other. Get her to warm up to you. Get her to talk at her own pace too. You wouldn't want to come off at too curious or inquisitive.

Listen to her. Focus your attention on your date. Don't go wandering your gaze to other women in your date place. It's impolite and rude behavior. Remember, you're the one who asked her out because you're attracted to her. Make her feel she's the only woman in the room for you.

Of course, it helps if you're in a place when you can talk and hear each other clearly. If you take her to a club or a concert then you wouldn't be able get a decent word it. Find a corner table in a cafe or restaurant, or sit on a bench in a park for that relaxing chitchat and get to know her better.

See her safely home too. Women will always appreciate the little things you do for her. It may not mean much to you, but girls will always love gentlemanly gestures like holding out her seat for her at the dinner table, or lending her your jacket when you feel she's getting cold. Show her that you've been brought up a respectful and polite guy. You're guaranteed to impress her with your sincere, thoughtful ways.

When you do all these things, you're bound to have a great date night. Your main objective is to get to know her better, but that shouldn't get in the way of having a great, relaxing time in each other's company.




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