When I began considering how to get back with my ex, I tried to think about what part I played in the break up. That was the only part I could control, so that was the key to my plot to make up. After some careful soul searching, it occurred to me that though I was not fully to blame, I had definitely played my role well. My reactions to each situation leading to the break could have easily swayed the direction of the relationship the other way. After this realization, the next step was clear. I had to change my ways for the better and work harder to understand why my ex acted in the ways that caused my reactions.
While understanding why someone acts the way they do does not make their actions okay, it goes a long way toward making them more forgivable and tolerable. It makes it much easier to react in a more relationship building way rather than in a way that tears a relationship apart. Of course, since my goal was to get back with my ex, it is obvious the relationship was already torn apart. How was I to repair the damage? I began by coming to terms with my role, and understanding what would not change. The next decision to make was could I accept the things that could not or would not change and move forward with the relationship anyway?
My answer was a resounding yes. Now I had to convince my ex. First I had to make it known that I wanted to get back with my ex. I placed the most difficult phone call of my life. There is no place for pride in this situation. I apologized for my role and explained that I was willing to work through the issues that led to the break. I expressed by understanding of why each of us reacted the way we did and hoped there was an agreement that could be met.
At the end of my monologue I came to a painful realization that I had not yet considered. No matter how badly I wanted to get back with my ex, it would not matter if my ex was not into it. Thankfully my ex was all for it, but I suggest considering this point before making a move just so that you are aware of the possibility.
It takes two to make a relationship, two to break one, and two to put one back together.
While understanding why someone acts the way they do does not make their actions okay, it goes a long way toward making them more forgivable and tolerable. It makes it much easier to react in a more relationship building way rather than in a way that tears a relationship apart. Of course, since my goal was to get back with my ex, it is obvious the relationship was already torn apart. How was I to repair the damage? I began by coming to terms with my role, and understanding what would not change. The next decision to make was could I accept the things that could not or would not change and move forward with the relationship anyway?
My answer was a resounding yes. Now I had to convince my ex. First I had to make it known that I wanted to get back with my ex. I placed the most difficult phone call of my life. There is no place for pride in this situation. I apologized for my role and explained that I was willing to work through the issues that led to the break. I expressed by understanding of why each of us reacted the way we did and hoped there was an agreement that could be met.
At the end of my monologue I came to a painful realization that I had not yet considered. No matter how badly I wanted to get back with my ex, it would not matter if my ex was not into it. Thankfully my ex was all for it, but I suggest considering this point before making a move just so that you are aware of the possibility.
It takes two to make a relationship, two to break one, and two to put one back together.
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