4/16/11

How To Strengthen Your Marriage After Cheating

By T Dub Jackson


When you have cheated on your wife, one daunting task that may seem impossible for you to do is to strengthen your marriage in spite of the horrible thing that you have done. It is at this point that most men in your situation would just raise the white flag and let go of everything.

As impossible as it may seem, it may be hard for you to believe but it is NOT. You can still recover everything that you have lost, undo the damage that you cheating has brought on your marriage, and have a stronger marriage that can better withstand future challenges that may arise.

You've probably tried all of the obvious things right?

You've tried gifts, flowers, and fancy dates. You've watched sappy romance movies and countless "chick flicks" with her. You've even suffered through the ballet or opera in an attempt to make her happy and get your marriage back on track. The problem is that none of these things seem to be working.

Now, you are probably dazed and confused, you have just run out of ideas on what to do to get her to trust you again. Naturally, she will still feel afraid and hesitant to trust you again after what you did. The irony of the situation is that you still love and care for each other and none of you want your relationship to be really over.

On the other hand, you know that if you don't do anything to make serious changes towards strengthening your marriage after cheating you are going to lose your marriage in the end.

The problem is that you aren't making real changes in your relationship. You're only making superficial changes. This leaves both of you waiting, on some level, for the other shoe to drop.

You have that sick feeling that as time goes by, your marriage is slowly inching towards the precipice and you now feel desperate because although you can see it coming, you feel like there is nothing you can do to prevent it from happening. But what if someone were to tell you that IS actually something that you can do?

Yes, that's right. It's not too late yet. You can still have that fairy tale ending that you are looking for, even after you have cheated. The best part is, it would not be that hard for you to do. But still, you have to make sure that you will make it happen once you decide on what way to take on winning back your partner's trust.

One of the most common mistake that people make in your situation is to pretend that everything is okay while on the inside, it is actually not. The problem is still there, just waiting for the right opportunity to show its ugly head and try to bring down your marriage again. You should not make this deadly mistake!

How can you do this? You can strengthen your marriage even after you have cheated by learning to truly appreciate your wife for everything that she has done and sacrificed for your relationship to work. You should make sure that she KNOWS and FEELS that you appreciate everything that she has done, and everything that she will be willing to do. If you are able to do this, then you can breathe easily.




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