8/2/11

Simple Ways To Improve Your Parenting Abilities

By Sven I. Xavier


No matter what school of thought you follow when it comes to parenting, the most important thing is to have a solid foundation and a good rapport with your children. There's little point in trying to work on more complicated issues if this fundamental factor hasn't been addressed. What happens too often with parenting is that the mistakes made by your own parents are repeated by you when you raise your own kids. This is exactly how unfortunate circumstances are repeated over and over again in a family. However, if you are reading this then at least you are making the noble effort to become aware. You don't learn how to be a parent in school, so most of us have to learn it as we go along.

The parent-child dynamics are extremely complex in many ways, and we know you have some appreciation of that. One area of concern is discipline, and this always works out best when you have a trusting relationship with your kids. When your children don't doubt your good intentions, they won't interpret discipline as something you're doing out of spite or anger. You can't really do a good job disciplining children if you don't have a thorough understanding of them. As long as the child knows that you genuinely care about him or her, discipline won't be misunderstood. The teen years will surely test the mettle of any parent, and that seems to be a universal experience. It is a combination of hormonal changes, body changes, and changes about who they are and how they relate to the world. Teenagers are not very susceptible to lecturing, so you should try a different tactic as this one typically does not work. You need to relate with your kids but not appear to be a friend or an acquaintance. The best strategy is to talk with them from the standpoint of an adult that can help. Consider memories that you have where adults talked down to you in the past and how it made you feel. So adopt the same type of rational and respectful strategy with your teens, and they will appreciate it even if they never tell you.

It's always best to create firm and consistent boundaries that your children know they have to stay within. The main benefit of this is that it allows children to know where they stand without any confusion. We are also talking about boundaries that must be clearly communicated and reinforced as positively as possible. You shouldn't be surprised, of course, if a child decides to push these boundaries or ignore a certain rule. While you have to respond appropriately to such situations, you shouldn't let them surprise or stress you out. Your children have to realize that these are firm principles they must follow, so you have to be vigilant about enforcing them.

Psychologists and professionals have identified certain types of parenting behavior. Parents will sometimes use a very detrimental strategy allowing their teenagers to have their way every single day. A better way to raise your teenage children is to discuss things with them that they should know such as dangers to avoid. At the top of this discussion list would be smoking, drugs, and making sure that they make friends with the right people. These types of discussions actually make a favorable impact on the way that they feel and the choices that they make according to studies. When this occurs, teenagers are often much more appreciative of good advice and may even implement it.

Your children and teens will push you and make you employ as many parenting techniques as you have in your bag of tricks. Challenging moments can always be handled if you are calm and logical.

Obviously, being a parent is one thing that you can't take lightly. You need to be cautious, and become a responsible adult. One thing you should do is acquire insurance coverage to protect yourself and all your family members from unexpected incidents. Please contact your insurance agent as soon as you can to discover exactly what kind you ought to acquire.




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