9/8/11

5 Ways To Stay Positive After A Break Up

By Daryl B. Chapman


Betrayed? Defensive? Wretched? Broken hearted? Certainly, there is so much emotion at risk after a break up. It is part of life. Certainly, no affairs are the same. Some can last while others are meant to fail. How people deal with disappointments can also diversify. Following a break up, one can opt to move and in order to do so, here are a few tips:

Cry And Take Away All Negativity There is no absolute relationship. Once the relationship ends, it can be complex to accept. Cry if you have to. Crying is not bad, healthy even. It can take away negative feelings and can very much improve one's mood. When you get hurt, cry. If you are a robot, you will certainly not cry. But you are not a robot. You're human. Think of a child, running a race. As he was turning down the street, he slipped and hurt his knees. He cried for a few minutes. But after realizing what happened, he carefully wiped his tears, stood and finished the race. The race is like relationships. One can slip down the road, get hurt and move on.

Skip The Drama And Don't Blame If there are no perfect relationships, there are no perfect people either. In one way or another, each of the people involved in a relationship are certain to commit mistakes. So don't blame your partner's weaknesses if you do not want to be blamed of yours. If the relationship is crashed and the issues are insolvable, check the best options. You wouldn't want to stay if you are just obligated to, right?

Admit The Situation If you hope to move on, learn to accept the truth of the situation. The reality is, the relationship is finished and you two has parted ways. Let it sinks in. Comprehend that this phase of your life is over. As not to make matters complex, avoid fantasizing that your ex will crawl back to your arms and the whole thing will be okay again. Just remember that a chapter of your life has closed but not your life per say. You still have a chance to advance. Lingering to an old love can only make things complex for you and your ex.

Learn From The Experience They say that experience is the best teacher. Let everything that has happened to you be a life lesson. In the process, learn to forgive yourself and your ex. You wouldn't want to commit the same mistakes twice. In spite of this, don't judge people just because you've been hurt. If you've been betrayed, don't presume that all people will betray you. Once you forgive, take away all the depressing vibes. That way, you can move on and open a new chapter in life.

Surround Yourself With Positive People And Things Always have hope and hold on to your faith. To stay positive you can read motivational books and uplifting quotes online or from friends. Listen to good music. Try to avoid engagements that will remind you of the distress and pain. Keeping a healthy state of mind will help you stay sane especially in these trying times. Also, do not surround yourself with bad influence individuals who will entice you to try drugs, alcohol and other vices. They are not the people you ought to mingle with if you want to move on with life productively.

Being in love is taking risks. Problems are inescapable. It helps make the relationship stronger. However, if circumstances arise when problems are already impossible to solve, accept that fact. Before you can progress you have to close this chapter of your life first. It can be hard but not impossible. Good luck!




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