9/4/11

The Right Way to Overcome Insecurity in a Relationship

By Alex Haight


Perhaps it's you or perhaps it's your spouse. Either way, there is some heavy insecurity in your relationship and it could even be at the point of promising to tear your relationship apart. How can you go about restoring trust and a strong foundation for your relationship to blossom and grow?

First, accept that it is completely normal to feel hesitant or not really ready to trust in a relationship when you have been hurt during the past. This nevertheless , does not imply that insecurity isn't going to threaten to ruin your relationship.

What it all truly comes down to is trust. Insecurity stems of a lack of trust, whether real or imagined. The way to beat insecurity in a relationship is to rebuild the trust.

Trust needs time to build, as I'm sure you have heard from different sources. But what you may not have heard is that transparency is the key to building trust in a relationship.

What is transparency and how can you employ it to finish insecurity in a relationship?

Well, when you break it down, transparency is just just being fully open and truthful with your companion about what you are doing and what they can expect from you. If a lack of trust comes from veiled motives and secret actions, then transparency comes from bringing everything into the light.

Transparency means calling ahead to let your companion know that you'll be working late. Transparency means letting your spouse know when you're going out to dinner to catch up with friends. Transparency means voicing your sentiments and getting rid of all the half-lies and lies of omission that straddle a wobbly border between integrity and deception.

This is a two-way street, so both you and your partner must practice transparency. If only one partner is required to act with transparency, then it becomes more of a kind of punishment or embarrassment, and not something which will bring the two of you together.

And it will take a little time to really enjoy the results you're looking for. Don't expect an instant miracle. Trust requires time and it'll require consistent persistence by both you and your partner to stick through the beginning stages while you are waiting for the results to show.

To help you start, it might be an excellent idea to sit down with your spouse and openly chat about the feelings of insecurity in your relationship. Talk about how you both wish to improve things and work together to develop a realistic code of transparency between the both of you that you both can agree to follow.

The journey to building trust again in your relationship isn't always gong to be easy, but with consistent work and dedication by you and your companion, you can end the feelings of insecurity.




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