If you've been wracking your thoughts wondering if your guy is cheating, let me take you into the mind of a cheater. Here I am going to be sharing with you the 3 habits of a cheating spouse.
First off, a cheating husband lives in a constant state of nervousness that he's going to be found out. This will lead him to guard particular things very closely that might give him away. Does your partner seem to keep his cellphone or his PC "off boundaries" to anyone but himself?
If he seems to get bent out of shape if you try to use these things, there is a possibility that he would be trying to protect his secret affair.
Additionally, he may also become terribly insistent that he manages the bills, bank records and other such things. These also will leave a slimy trail of his indiscretion and if he can manage them then you won't be well placed to catch on to all his "extra-curricular activities." You'll just think he's being so helpful by taking care of the bills for you.
Second, your husband will often be distancing himself emotionally from you. Most guys have feelings of guilt about having an affair. It is awfully difficult for a man, emotionally, to have feelings for two women at the same time, especially after he has married one of them (you).
So as to handle his guilt, he is going to need to distance himself from you. Maybe he just does not seem to talk with you anymore, perhaps there's more arguing, or perhaps he just spends more time away from home. Either way, you'll feel on an emotional level that he will be drifting away from you.
Third, he may act more cruel towards you. Building off that last point, if your partner is having an affair, he will not just need to distance himself from you, but after some time, he'll begin to see the other woman as "all good," while seeing you as "all bad."
This is not anything specific about you. Again, this is basically his guilt. He must find a way to make a case for what he's doing to himself. Most guys are good folk who never desire to think of themselves as the sort of people who would cheat on their wife. If he is, he is suffering from guilt about it.
By labeling you as "all bad" in his mind, he can easily explain or rationalize the affair. "Well, if she didn't nag me all the time or made an effort to look a little pleasanter, she wouldn't have driven me to this," is what he might be thinking. These thoughts might come out when you are talking too. If he begins to say insensitive or plain cruel things directly to you, it could be a sign that he's cheating.
If you spot any of these marks in your husband, you should be concerned. It doesn't mean that he's necessarily having an affair, but it implies that your marriage is a victim of some problems that you need to definitely look at.
First off, a cheating husband lives in a constant state of nervousness that he's going to be found out. This will lead him to guard particular things very closely that might give him away. Does your partner seem to keep his cellphone or his PC "off boundaries" to anyone but himself?
If he seems to get bent out of shape if you try to use these things, there is a possibility that he would be trying to protect his secret affair.
Additionally, he may also become terribly insistent that he manages the bills, bank records and other such things. These also will leave a slimy trail of his indiscretion and if he can manage them then you won't be well placed to catch on to all his "extra-curricular activities." You'll just think he's being so helpful by taking care of the bills for you.
Second, your husband will often be distancing himself emotionally from you. Most guys have feelings of guilt about having an affair. It is awfully difficult for a man, emotionally, to have feelings for two women at the same time, especially after he has married one of them (you).
So as to handle his guilt, he is going to need to distance himself from you. Maybe he just does not seem to talk with you anymore, perhaps there's more arguing, or perhaps he just spends more time away from home. Either way, you'll feel on an emotional level that he will be drifting away from you.
Third, he may act more cruel towards you. Building off that last point, if your partner is having an affair, he will not just need to distance himself from you, but after some time, he'll begin to see the other woman as "all good," while seeing you as "all bad."
This is not anything specific about you. Again, this is basically his guilt. He must find a way to make a case for what he's doing to himself. Most guys are good folk who never desire to think of themselves as the sort of people who would cheat on their wife. If he is, he is suffering from guilt about it.
By labeling you as "all bad" in his mind, he can easily explain or rationalize the affair. "Well, if she didn't nag me all the time or made an effort to look a little pleasanter, she wouldn't have driven me to this," is what he might be thinking. These thoughts might come out when you are talking too. If he begins to say insensitive or plain cruel things directly to you, it could be a sign that he's cheating.
If you spot any of these marks in your husband, you should be concerned. It doesn't mean that he's necessarily having an affair, but it implies that your marriage is a victim of some problems that you need to definitely look at.
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