10/6/11

Approaching Girls with Confidence

By Chris Miller


The biggest obstacle to the approach is the feeling of being overwhelmed. This kind of fear will undoubtedly show in your actions and words. The anxiety becomes unbearable when you think of cool things to say but nothing comes out. There is also no assurance that the girl will be interested in you. You have no idea how to behave if she doesn't react to your flirting and if you run out of cool things to say.

Approach anxiety is usual, so it's not just you. Getting a cure for anxiety attacks that occur when you approach a girl is not impossible. The truth is, there's always a feeling of nervousness when you are about to do something you're not accustomed to doing. You are not going to eliminate this feeling entirely, but you can control it well so that you won't have to worry about approaching ladies.

Listed here are some suggestions.

1. Open Body Language

There are lots of people around in a club. When you get there, you do not know anybody so you sit alone with your drink. Don't spend too much time drinking alone and circulate around the bar as soon as you can. In a crowded nightclub, people are expected to mingle. People are there to mingle, whether they went there with friends or alone.

Ladies are looking at you. Women, interested or curious about the new guy that appeared, would be looking. Drinking alone and not talking to anyone would give the impression that you are creepy. No one wants to be around a guy who is obviously drowning in his sorrows. Socializing with others starts with your body language. Be more amicable even when everyone around is a stranger.

2. Eye Contact

It's simple enough to make eye contact with a girl. The tricky part is knowing what to do after you make eye contact. A woman would either give you a passive look or a receptive look. A passive look is an accidental locking of the eyes. This means you are not really planning on talking with that person and your look goes somewhere else. A responsive look is when you intentionally look at a girl to send your message via your eyes. Unless a woman is too stoned to notice, she will respond with a look back or she will pay no attention to you deliberately. Making use of eye contact as bait is a good idea.

Locking eyes might also mean measuring your level of confidence compared to the other person. She may look away initially, act shy or flustered. It's not always a given that a lady is more confident just because guys are approaching her. It's more likely that many ladies are more easily flustered when the man is self-confident.

3. Smile

The intensity of the eye contact is magnetic enough to make a girl flush. The feeling of being stared at with a meaningful gaze can be daunting. Smiling can soften the intensity and result in a warm feeling. Your friendliness comes through when you smile. It's like your whole face lights up, and she cannot help but smile back.




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