10/31/11

What You Need to Know About Getting Together After a Break Up

By Clay Andrews


The way two people see each other can be changed forever by breakups. While some couples eventually become friends, others just drive away and possibly even totally forget their partners. For some reason, several couples meet after they break up. But is getting together after a breakup okay? Continue reading to find out.

First, you must ask yourself, why do you wanna meet your ex? Is it because you wanna get back together? Are you aiming for friendship? Or possibly even simply vent your anger out on him? During the first few days, getting together after a break up is a bad idea since you're still going to be emotional. This can make you say or do things that will just exacerbate things. This is essential, particularly if you want to get back together with your ex.

At times, getting together after a breakup is inevitable, especially if you have many mutual friends. It's okay to miss a party or social gathering if it's not that important unless your friend tells you that your ex won't be attending. While this might seem cowardly at first, it's for the best. You owe it to yourself to stay away from situations that will only cause more hurt. While you can't calmly face your ex now, you eventually will be able to one day.

Getting together after a breakup becomes a good idea in the end, and even important sometimes. But you have to know exactly why you're meeting up with your ex.

Is it because you're going to try to reconcile with him? Or you maybe just need closure? Whatever is the reason, if you're going to start the meeting, simply send him a text or an email. Don't bother him and just let it be if he doesn't reply. Perhaps, he's not prepared yet or will never be.

In case he agrees to a meeting or initiated the meeting himself, know first what the agenda will be. During the meeting, it's alright to bring up that topic if he himself would like to talk about the relationship a bit.

A vital rule in getting together after a breakup is keeping the meetings short at the start. By doing this, the two of you can avoid delving extremely and risk opening wounds that have been cured. Since you might also be tempted to get emotional, keep the conversation light and casual.

His body language can tell you whether he is comfortable or not in getting together after a breakup.

Through this, you can stay on course and evade topics that will turn him off. By taking time and moving slowly, you may have future meetings ahead. If you rush things, however, both of you might not get together again.




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