11/6/11

Change Your Relationship With Relationship Help

By Chris Williams


Relationship help can save most relationships no matter how hopeless you think they seem. It isn't a magic answer though. To save any type of relationship you need to put in some hard work. That work has to be put in by both partners also. You cannot save a relationship by yourself.

You must both be willing to be patient. You have to identify problems, find solutions to relationship issues and then work through the solutions to them for as long as it takes to succeed.

Once you are in complete agreement that you want to make amends you have overcome the first obstacle. Next you both must be totally willing to change old habits and embrace new changes. If you do that you are on the right path to renewing your love and trust that will make this relationship succeed.

It's common for one partner to be the instigator of help for relationship issues and that partner is likely to be the one who will work the hardest at it. It won't work though unless you are both equally committed to it.

The first step involved in relationship help is working out the real cause of the relationship breakdown. Many partners when asked what the problems are will complain they have to do all the work or make all the decisions. They feel that it is an unequal relationship.

Small things are rarely the real cause of relationship problems. When one partner complains about lack of help from the other they usually really mean they are sick of not being noticed and complimented for all they are doing.

Some problems may not even really be about the current relationship at all. There may be old hurts and insecurities that one partner hasn't been able to leave behind. These can cause depression and self absorption that makes one partner seem distant and uninterested in their partner.

Sometimes they may not even realize that their past is actually causing the relationship issues in the present. If this is the case in your relationship, and you both agree, it may be time to seek relationship help from an expert and not try and solve it yourselves.




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