11/4/11

How to Handle Your Internet Life After a Break Up

By Clay Andrews


So you got dumped. Maybe you could move on with your life. Pull yourself back together and trudge through work, school, and that kind of stuff. But every you log onto an internet website to update your status or see what your chums are up to, there he is.

It is a hard reminder of your split up. Each time you sign on and see a picture of him out hitting up on girls from last weekend or one of those sickeningly cute pictures of him with his new girlfriend, it makes you want to just delete your account and crawl under a rock.

Well, what can you do? You can not just become a digital hermit, right? Here are a few tips about No Contact Break Up Rule.

The very first thing you should realize that un-friending him or blocking him is only going to make you appear angry or like there's a lot of negative feelings between you. If you have any intention of staying in touch or getting back together, this isn't what you need to do.

Instead, change your display settings so that you don't get updates from him. You can stay friends with someone in most social networks without being inundated by their updates. You also have to have the power to not actively look at his account for the time being too.

Let's face it, you need time to get yourself together from the break up and pull your life back together. Consistently being reminded of him and how he is moving on isn't going to help. This is actually the right way to manage yourself online during the following couple of weeks till you're feeling prepared to open the lines of contact again.

If you'd like to get him back, you also wish to carry on using your social networking sites to paint a positive picture of your life. Post photos of you being happy and outgoing.

Avoid posting those esoteric, depressing status updates like "You think you had the last laugh, but karma is real." Not only will no one really know who this is aimed at, but it also seems amazingly negative (not something that you need people associating with you).

So the best course of action is to restrict your exposure to your ex in the weeks immediately following the break up. You also want to portray a positive and hopeful perspective online since this may make it appear like you are an optimistic person rather than a downer.




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