12/22/11

Astrological Compatibility - The Astrology of Relationship, Part I - Aspects

By Visjack Nick


Astrology can teach us much about our relationships with others if we spend some time owning to know the symbolic language on a more intimate level. Commonly as soon as men and women speak of astrological compatibility they're speaking of their sun signs only. What you will often hear is "I am a Leo and I typically don't get along with Scorpios" or "I am a Virgo and Pisces people extremely drive me crazy." What is missing here, of course, is an understanding of what it is about other individuals that extremely challenges us on a deeper level

To get a clearer understanding of astrological compatibility it's necessary to delve into 2 facets of astrology: the things and also the aspects. The issues we use in astrology are fire, water, air and earth. Every astrological sign falls into 1 of these categories. Aries, Leo and Sagittarius are the fire signs which are generally associated with our potential to perceive on an intuitive level. Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces are water signs which relate for the emotional aspects of our being. Libra, Aquarius and Gemini are all air signs and correspond to the mental or intellectual plane. And finally, Capricorn, Taurus and Virgo are the earth signs and relate towards physical or sensate qualities we possess.

The aspects are the interrelationships or dynamics that exist in between the elements. The aspects determine the relative ease or "dis-ease" where the points will operate. For example, in Figure One I have laid out the issues in their natural relationships. As you'll be able to see fire and air and water and earth oppose each other (180 degrees apart). In addition each element is squared (in a 90 degree relationship) with each of the other elements. These 2 relationships, the opposition and square are probably the most hard with the aspects between the elements. Does this mean then that in case you happen being an Aries (a fire sign) that every earth, water and air sign you meet will probably be a challenge to you in some way? Fortunately not!

In Figures 2, Three and 4, I've laid out 3 diagrams of how the signs aspect or interrelate with every other. To interpret these examples all you do is discover your birth sign and compare that of the other signs on your specific diagram. Using the Aries birth, for example, you'd discover that your relationships with Cancer, Libra and Capricorn would be challenging. Another water, air and earth signs within the remaining diagrams would not be as difficult and, in most cases, would be relatively smooth going.

This is since as an Aries you'd be in certain aspect (trine) on the other fire signs and positive aspect (sextile) in the other air signs outside of one's diagram. Similarly, in case you are a Taurus you'll find it more tough being around Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius and easier to become around the other earth signs and water signs outside of the very own diagram.

To demonstrate how these principles operate inside a relationship I'd like to share with you the dynamics of a couple I worked with a few years ago. She was a Scorpio with 5 of her ten planets in that sign and he was a Taurus of the exact same quantity of planets in Taurus. As you can see inside diagram Taurus and Scorpio are opposite each other and theirs was a traditional instance on the opposition relationship. In this sort of relationship, that is certainly extremely common, (remember the old adage, opposites attract?) the couple usually draws the opposite to them to your purpose of healing and becoming whole. What happens many times though, is how the couple ends up spending most of their time making another person's fact wrong!

In this situation she was the emotionally expressive one inside relationship and tended to be sort of "spacey" and quite ungrounded in her body. He was the epitome with the "classic" rational "I do not feel it unless I see it" kind of guy. He wasn't interested or capable at the time of "being with" her deep, emotional material and she wasn't in a position to see the certain aspects of his earthy qualities. This can be not to say how the opposition relationship won't work. It is just a lot more tough because it requires that both partners honor and accept the gift that their partner is offering them. It also takes good discipline to consciously develop the parts of ourselves which is more than produced in our partner so that we don't need them being whole ourselves.

The square relationship can be really well-known and I call it the "growth via confrontation" relationship. The crux of this relationship is that each partner challenges another to retain growing always through confrontation and conflict! Within the square relationship it often looks that the couple undermines and thwarts the most intentions of every other. The positive side of this kind of relationship is that it provides plenty of energy and motivation to break out of old methods of relating. The only problem is that it is really painful for all of those involved. Nevertheless, for those that are incredibly committed to growing each individually and as being a couple and who like a good deal of fireworks in their relationship, the square relationship can also be extremely dynamic and can create plenty of breakthroughs.

The conjunct relationship, or relationships that share the exact same sign, are the most rare and one of the most challenging. Because each partner is similar in quite a few ways there is a compelling pull to merge on the other and to blur the boundaries that give rise to individuality. Objectivity tends to obtain thrown out the window and it becomes very challenging for your couple to distinguish wherever they stand in relation to each other. The reward of this balancing act is often a relationship that reflects a singleness of purpose, and an intensity that provides motivation for accomplishing significantly together.

Interestingly sufficient the "easier" relationships, the trine relationship (both partners during the exact same element) and also the sextile relationship (fire with any air outside one's own diagram, or water with any earth element outside one's unique diagram) are not as favorite as the much more difficult relationships we've been discussing. Perhaps this accounts for your high divorce rate that exists in this country! Perhaps we choose the challenging relationships to move beyond what our familiar patterns of relationship have been. Because 1 on the gifts of becoming in relationship will be the opportunity to grow each individually and in relation to others possibly we need that extra challenge to extremely motivate us to change and grow.




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