12/1/11

Living Together Before Getting Married - Advice From A Relationships Expert

By Bryan Charlton


As you settle in comfortably into a relationship, the question may arise on whether or not it is a good idea to live together before tying the knot. Some couples have found that it was a good idea for them, while others would not dream of it. It really is a case by case situation. Take a look at the pros and cons so that you can make the best decision possible about your living arrangements before you get married.

When people make the decision to live together there are some really great advantages. The main advantage is that they will get the chance to know one another on a more personal level. You never really know all the facts about someone until you have lived under the same roof with them. This can help you isolate and deal with annoying traits or you may see that they are too much for you and decide it is best not to get married.

Another advantage to this situation is that you will be able to learn how compatible you are financially. By sharing these responsibilities you will be able to see if the two of you are able to manage your money well. Financial problems are one of the biggest causes of divorce so if you are having them before you get married then you should take a good look at the situation. The plus is that you will have two incomes to cover everything.

When couples decide to live together there are some pitfalls that need to be avoided. People who live together often find themselves in a situation like they would be if they were married and may decide that they don't need to be married. This lack of commitment can cause problems down the road. If there is no commitment, people are more likely to split because of problems that could normally be handled by a married couple. Long term cohabitation without marriage often ends relationships.

There are going to be positive and negative aspects no matter how you dice it, but if you take the time to weigh out your advantages and your disadvantages you will be able to make the best choice. While living together may be a great option for one couple, it could be the opposite for another. Therefore, it is really impossible to give a blanket answer as to whether or not a couple should move in together before getting married.




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