12/30/11

Using Parties or Special Occasions To Meet Mr Right

By Susan Pinner


A banging party might be the perfect meeting place. Your hosts might already be in celebratory mode â€" Yuletide, birthday, house warming or whatever the occasion could be. There are likely to be at least a few fellow partygoers that you actually know and there are sure to be 1 or 2 single men too. You can seriously pamper yourself before you go, dress up massively and look your very best. There's regularly a connection between the fellow who looks like he might be cool to talk to and the host or hostess, and if you know them good enough you can always subtly check out who he is , what he does for a job and whether he's free for further enquiry. Trouble is, unless you move artfully and directly, attractive unattached men can get monopolized by other single girls very swiftly.

All of a sudden the party's drawing to a close and the nearest you have got to chatting to anyone remotely single was your best friend's younger brother who, after a couple of lagers, admitted to having a childhood crush on you. So what to do ... ?

Try hard not to get to a party too early â€" you'll be worse for wear by the point most of the other guests turn up and there's a feeling of desperation at turning up at 8 o'clock on the dot. Then again, don't wait until the increasingly fashionable bar throwing out time to arrive â€" it may be too late to snap up the greatest deals! 9 to 9.30 pm. Is mostly about right.

Work the room, talking to those guests that you do know, keeping one eye open for attractive blokes on the way. Try not to get stuck with the loser from accounts or the old friend that wants to catch up with the last few months in point by point detail. Excusing yourself to the toilet remains the best way of extricating yourself from that kind of situation and wasting potential manâ€"hunting time.

Chat to a spread of folks, men and women, as networking can lead to all kinds of further opportunities.

If you see someone that you like, check out his ring finger. Not a guaranteed strategy of getting rid of the attached men of course, nonetheless it definitely helps.

The most straightforward system of getting near a fellow who looks engaging is simply to ask him his connection to the party. 'So how does one know Robert/Felicity? Anything starting with 'My spouse/girlfriend' or even 'We ' is probably a dead end.

Once you're chatting to someone who has taken your fancy, try and relax and enjoy. Pose questions, be a good listener and check out whether there's any eye contact. And if he excuses himself to go to the loo and does not return within just a few minutes, or goes off to get another drink without offering you a refill, take his departure in good grace. Perhaps this time the attraction was not mutual; perhaps next time you will have more dating success.




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