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Some Interesting Facts About Coping With Infidelity For Everyone

By Dr Joe James


You have two choices when confronted with and, in turn, coping with infidelity. You can accept it and try to move on with the relationship or you can end the relationship. These two choices may seem almost insurmountable when the situation is new and fresh in your mind. There are a lot of heavy emotions burdening the mind when a spouse or significant other has cheated.

It can be very difficult to deal with this kind of situation. Most people have their emotions and feelings wrapped up in their intimate relationships. When one person betrays the trust that was built up, it is difficult to get past it. Some want to know everything about the betrayal. Others want to know nothing of the details. You should choose based on what makes you the most comfortable.

Ask whatever questions come to your mind. You should be more worried about your own recovery than you are of their welfare. Do not worry about humiliating or embarrassing them. It is time to focus on yourself and decide what you want to do.

One of the biggest results of this betrayal is the complete loss of trust. When there is little trust left between the two parties, one is always questioning the other's motives and love begins to fade. Jealousy, anger and resentment tend to take the place of the love and happiness that was once shared. It is important to remember that even if you decide to stay with the person who cheated on you, the relationship will never be the same again. It is possible to start again as if things were brand new but it is not possible to completely forget the betrayal as if it never happened.

It is important to remember that if you decide to continue on, the relationship will need to start on new ground. You will never be able to return to the way things were before, but you can start new and create new love and trust from that point on. Seeing a therapist can help. Couples therapy helps both parties find a neutral ground to stand on. Therapists encourage both to speak their minds and open up about what worries them.

Therapists help couples learn to make that new start and learn to trust again in a new way. Couples should remember to take their time if they need to. Trust is vital to a healthy relationship. Building it back up can take time.

Make sure the relationship you are trying to save is worth saving. Many people find coping with infidelity nearly impossible to do. It is almost as difficult as learning to trust a cheating partner again.




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