2/29/12

Cure Your Approach Anxiety

By Chris Miller


The biggest obstacle to the approach is the sensation of being overwhelmed. The anxiety can show in your actions and your expressions. The pressure comes from the thought of walking over and thinking of awesome things to say to her. Besides this, you also feel that the girl will simply reject you anyway. When she responds negatively, the nervousness deepens.

The expression for this powerlessness to approach girls is approach anxiety. Healing this is hard because you are bound to feel this every time you approach ladies. Even the experienced players still feel this around ladies, believe it or not. You cannot eliminate approach anxiety completely, but you can find out how to cope even though you still feel anxious when approaching girls.

Listed here are some suggestions.

1. Open Body Language

When you're in a club, you see so many people around. When you get there, it is likely that you do not know anyone so you sit around doing nothing. Do not spend too much time drinking alone and circulate around the bar as soon as you can. In a crowded bar, people are expected to mingle. Meeting new people is the problem, and you must not back away from it.

Ladies are looking at you. Your actions are being observed. Drinking alone and not talking to anyone would give the impression that you're creepy. They'd think you're all set on getting drunk alone and you do not want to mingle. You can begin meeting women by being sociable. Ensure that you look amicable and people will be more receptive to you.

2. Eye Contact

It's easy enough to make eye contact with a girl. The hard part is knowing what to do after you make eye contact. There are diverse kinds of looks: the reactive one and the passive one. A passive look is when you accidentally make eye contact with somebody. This means you're not really planning on speaking with that person and your gaze goes somewhere else. A responsive look is when you deliberately take a look at a woman to send your message via your eyes. Unless a girl is too stoned to notice, she will reply with a look back or she will disregard you deliberately. You may employ eye contact as a lure to catch the attention of the girl.

Eye contact will also give you a chance to evaluate the other person's self confidence. It's possible to feel flustered after being stared at in a telling way. If you observe that she's more shy than you thought, you may feel less tense about approaching her. It's more likely that many ladies are more easily disconcerted when the man is confident.

3. Smile

Eye contact intensity is positive for many reasons. The feeling can be daunting. Smiling just before you break the eye contact can lessen the intensity of your stare. A smile can be the best non-verbal manifestation of your purpose to get to know her better. A charming smile when combined with eye contact can be your best weapon in seduction. You're infusing heaps of emotion in your gaze just by smiling.




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