2/14/12

Genuine Crucial Counsel Regarding How to Save your Marriage

By Jenny Allison


Divorce has placed a new meaning to marriage in our modern times. From what we know, marriage was about spending the rest of your life with your spouse "till death do you part." But with how easy married couples just file for divorce or separate, it's as if they might've just opted to promise "till irreconcilable differences do you part." So what happened from the time that you could've sworn you were over the moon in love with your spouse up until the time you could not wait to move out of your house to live separate lives?

When you look back on what could've caused all these commotion, you later on realize that it just stemmed from one simple miscommunication-a very petty fight which transformed into an uncontrollable situation wherein you're left with almost no options but to just give up and end everything.

Sometimes couples choose divorce or separation over trying to work things out because it's much easier to just leave it at that and escape from all the drama. But if you try and pay attention to that voice inside your head saying that there's another way or that there's still a chance for everything to work out, you should really listen. And instead of just listening, you should really try to act on it as soon as possible with some of these ways on how to save your marriage.

One of the first things to consider on how to save your marriage is time. Sometimes, you and your spouse become so preoccupied with a lot of things and forget to have some much-needed quality alone time together. A time to unwind, relax and just freely talk about anything under the sun with your partner in life.

Another possible step to take on how to save your marriage is to do something spontaneous for your spouse every day. It just has to be something little but something that your spouse wouldn't really expect from you. This could add a bit of spark and romance which long-time married couples tend to lose along the way. You can prepare your spouse's things, or breakfast in bed or even a simple note to make him/her smile for the day.

The most important key in making things work for both you and your spouse is to compromise. No matter what other ways on how to save your marriage you attempt to do, but without compromise, it just won't work. It is imperative to prioritize your spouse's needs before your own and for sure, you'll gain a lot of trust and affection from your spouse.

But of course, it's not all about your spouse. An important aspect of knowing how to save your marriage is to not forget to love and value yourself as well. You must never lose sight of your identity apart from your spouse's and never forget your true worth. With this, your spouse is sure to recognize and respect your true worth as well.

You and your spouse can never manipulate or force each other to fit each other's idealistic expectations, but what's important is to be open for improvement and betterment of each other for the benefit of your relationship.

It all begins with one step, one day at a time. Rushing into things never resulted in something beneficial and the same applies to a marriage. With these simple ways on how to save your marriage, you're not only bringing romance in your married lives but you're actually putting back the true meaning and sanctity of what it's like to be married.




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