5/28/12

How To Win Back Lost Love

By David Webb


If you have had a break-up, you're probably either trying to work out how it is possible to get over the person, or the easiest way to win back lost love. Neither is very easy, but most individuals fall to either, with only very few able to move on quickly without pining or wishing things could be different. You need to really think hard about the relationship and your ex before you do anything. Think about how things were and how they will be now. Try to be as unbiased as you can. You could decide the break up truly isn't a very bad idea.

If you make a decision to try to win back lost love, step 1 is to apologize. You could think you have done this. You might have asserted you were sorry several times. But if your ex thought you were apologizing solely to stop a break up, she may not think the apology was earnest.

If you were the person who did something you need to apologize for, say sorry again. Now they'd think the apology is frank, because nothing hinges on it. If the relationship has stopped, you will not be announcing it only to put it aside but they're going to believe that you mean it. (And hopefully, you do.)

When your ex was the person who did something worth apologizing for, then rather than try to get a frank apology from them, pardon them. You can never forget, particularly if your break up was due to cheating, but you must learn to pardon. Forgiving is much more hard for some of us than simply pronouncing, "I excuse you," though, so you might like to read a book or two on absolution and the way to really mean it. If you'd like to win back lost love, this step will assist you in doing it. And it can often help prevent issues in days to come too.

If you do succeed and you win back lost love, 3 or 6 or 9 months into the just patched relationship, old issues might come up. If you have not forgiven the individual for whatever was done to split up the relationship, then you might have a tricky time getting past everything. Old wounds would be reopened and its likely that harmful things would be related.

But if you can truly forgive the person, then there will not be any necessity to rehash the past. While you're working on forgiving her for whatever happened to cause the split, pardon them for the break itself and you'll save yourself lots of grief down the road.

Additionally , to get back lost love, show the individual the "you" they fell completely in love with, not the "you" that has been dumped. They were with you as you have certain qualities -kindness, thoughtfulness- not because you're annoyed, envious or hurt. While you might be unable to hide the hurt, concentrate on being the best "you" that you can most likely be and you may win back lost love by reminding them why they loved you first of all.




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