Today we are going to have a look at a derogatory label that gets bandied around a bit. The "gold digger".
Some people love the luxuries that being rich brings. Further, they strive with the pressures that also come with these luxuries. Occasionally these people are women who, rather than earn the riches themselves, hope to marry into riches. As such, they pursue and date wealthy men exclusively.
Lets have a look at reality. We live in a diverse world, a world where there are people who strive and are successful in a million variations of existence. The very definition of "success" changes as it is thought about by every unique person. One of these instances of success is the reality of abundance, of the wealthy. Such a reality has its own pressures, its own ups and downs. Just have a look at any gossip column if you think people who live in opulence live a totally charmed life. The reality is starkly different.
Every person is different. I am different to you, you are different to everyone else. We all have different ideas, opinions and priorities. We all excel in different situations, we all crumble in different situations. Living a life of wealth and abundance does not work for everyone. The pressures associated with generating and maintaining such wealth do not work for everyone. For me for example, a life committed to love and family would be way more fulfilling than a life committed to career or business. Maintaining such wealth would not work for me. But that's just me. Others do not need to wake up and walk their children to school. They wake up and need to get to work. Its what drives them. It's who they are.
Given I can understand that such a lifestyle isn't for me, yet it is for others, I don't understand why people have to create unfair labels for people who want to live that way. I don't understand why other people need to label a woman who pursues and dates wealthy men a gold digger, if it makes both her and her partner happy. The woman who applies this criteria to her dating assumedly knows herself, know what situations she works well in and understands the qualities she brings to her partners. So why can't we just wish her all the best and concentrate on our own happiness?
The basic problem is that no matter what you do, people will want to interfere and shove their own opinions down your throat. They clearly haven't got enough going on in their own lives. If you know what your want, have the courage to go after it. Only you can say what will make you happy at the end of the day.
And forget about the detractors. Remember, their opinions usually tell you more about them than the people they are opining about.
Some people love the luxuries that being rich brings. Further, they strive with the pressures that also come with these luxuries. Occasionally these people are women who, rather than earn the riches themselves, hope to marry into riches. As such, they pursue and date wealthy men exclusively.
Lets have a look at reality. We live in a diverse world, a world where there are people who strive and are successful in a million variations of existence. The very definition of "success" changes as it is thought about by every unique person. One of these instances of success is the reality of abundance, of the wealthy. Such a reality has its own pressures, its own ups and downs. Just have a look at any gossip column if you think people who live in opulence live a totally charmed life. The reality is starkly different.
Every person is different. I am different to you, you are different to everyone else. We all have different ideas, opinions and priorities. We all excel in different situations, we all crumble in different situations. Living a life of wealth and abundance does not work for everyone. The pressures associated with generating and maintaining such wealth do not work for everyone. For me for example, a life committed to love and family would be way more fulfilling than a life committed to career or business. Maintaining such wealth would not work for me. But that's just me. Others do not need to wake up and walk their children to school. They wake up and need to get to work. Its what drives them. It's who they are.
Given I can understand that such a lifestyle isn't for me, yet it is for others, I don't understand why people have to create unfair labels for people who want to live that way. I don't understand why other people need to label a woman who pursues and dates wealthy men a gold digger, if it makes both her and her partner happy. The woman who applies this criteria to her dating assumedly knows herself, know what situations she works well in and understands the qualities she brings to her partners. So why can't we just wish her all the best and concentrate on our own happiness?
The basic problem is that no matter what you do, people will want to interfere and shove their own opinions down your throat. They clearly haven't got enough going on in their own lives. If you know what your want, have the courage to go after it. Only you can say what will make you happy at the end of the day.
And forget about the detractors. Remember, their opinions usually tell you more about them than the people they are opining about.
About the Author:
Jayde Johannsen gives free dating advice for women and also, information on Dating Sites. Unique version for reprint here: Is It Really A Bad Thing To Be A Gold Digger?.
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