3/24/11

Approaching Women The Proper Way

By Joseph Matthews


Knowing how to approach women is a vital skill every man needs to know, because approaching women is the first step in creating a relationship with the girl of your dreams...

The way you approach a girl can make or break the rest of your pickup. Here are some tips for approaching women that will help ensure your success! Remember a situation where you were going to approach a girl, and before you could even get a single word out, she freaked out and simply rejected you?

Getting rejected right off the bat can be painful, but this is why you need to know the secrets to approaching women the right way! Once you've "blown it" with a girl, it is extremely hard to recover. The most important thing to remember when approaching women is to come off as NON-THREATENING and to not, under any circumstances, telegraph your interest in them too early.

This is about by-passing a girl's defenses and flying in "under the radar." It's the woman's reality that she constantly gets guys approaching her and trying to pick her up, so her natural inclination is to nip this in the bud quickly by outright REJECTING any man who seems interested in her. Most men don't realize how annoying it can be for women to constantly be approached by guys who run the gamut from big time loser to big time creep. Because of this, women just don't want to deal with yet "another pick-up attempt."

However, approaching women is fun and easy if you know the RIGHT WAY to do it!

So let's talk about the right way to approach any woman...

First - YOU MUST ACT FAST.

Waiting too long before you approach a woman will give you a chance to talk yourself out of meeting her.

Secondly, know what you're going to start the conversation with BEFORE you approach the girl. This will make meeting women much easier because you don't have to spend time thinking of what to say before you feel comfortable walking up to meet her. Having a good "pick up line" memorized for situations like these is always a good idea.

But I'm not talking about the "Hey, nice shoes, what to have sex?" type line. The point is to be NON-THREATENING, remember?

A good pick up line is something that will start an innocent conversation with the girl you're approaching. Examples of a good line would be to ask her opinion on something and then continue the conversation by asking more questions about her opinion. An important tip you should be aware of is to always approach a woman at an angle instead of charging towards her like you're going to war! When you approach at an angle, it's much less confrontational and you're going to subconsciously put the woman more at ease than if you approached her head-on.

Remember this golden rule of pick-up: Attraction can only happen when the girl is COMFORTABLE with you! Because of this, it is also vitally important that YOU feel comfortable when approaching women. It's natural to feel uncomfortable meeting attractive women, but remember - practice makes perfect! If you take the time to go out and practice meeting women, over time it will become easier and you'll be more comfortable with doing it.

Let me tell you - getting good at approaching women is not going to happen if all you do is read about it or study it! If you're worried about being rejected, just look at it as a game. The ONLY thing you're doing is approaching women. You're not asking her out, you're not trying to get her into bed, your only goal is to carry on some type of conversation.

That's all! See how many girls you can talk to in one night, and keep trying to beat your score.

Use a "time constraint" whenever you approach a woman. Such as saying you can only talk for a second before you have to run.

Effective use of time constraints will better engage the woman you're talking to, because she won't feel that she's committing to a time-consuming endeavor. Instead, you're only a momentary "distraction." This helps eliminate any reason to reject you right off the bat. Don't worry about putting a time limit on yourself. Once the conversation picks up, the girl will forget about your time constraint and you can talk to her as long as you want. Remember, the goal here is just to get the conversation started, and a good time constraint will help you do that!

The dating game is a numbers game. The more women you're able to meet, the greater your chances at finding a great girlfriend.




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