8/9/11

The Many Facets Of Parenting And All Of The Unique Conflicts

By Samantha Lucius Xavier


Sometimes, we as parents, pass on things to our children without even noticing, and that makes the job extremely problematic. For example, we all have our positive points and personal challenges that are a natural part of our personality.

Since all people have unique experiences as well as personalities, when they are all mixed together, the result is quite an interesting dynamic. As interesting as this is with only one person, what will it be like with a spouse and children added in. Yet, that is what we all face as partners, spouses and parents, and as difficult as it is none of us would change a thing. Taking your own life and mixing it with another, and adding in children and experiences is what makes life a good thing.

In front of your children is not the time to explode in anger with a full-blown argument. This is a very unwise thing to do, for a variety of reasons. Children are usually pretty perceptive of what is going on between their parents and have a way of blaming themselves for the arguing. Children always can tell when there is tension going on between the parents. To resolve a conflict constructively is a good way to teach your children how to deal with difficult situations. In order for children to learn about dealing with problems later in life, they need to experience conflicts being resolved by their parents. I'm sure you can remember a time when you didn't feel like you were good enough at something. It's a terrible feeling to not feel good at something, and that feeling tends to hang on for a while. It may not be easy to get your child to share with you about how they feel, but it is absolutely necessary to know how they are responding to life's events. Don't push your child into an activity if they really are not enjoying it. Giving your children the opportunity to process their feelings out loud will help now and for their future. Children are the same as adults in that they want to have their own voice and then be more willing to take advice from someone. Try to help them see the larger picture and offer to help them with educational materials that can help them perform better.

Parents will always notice personality traits in their kids that they will want to remove or at least change as they grow up. Dealing with these changes can be hard sometimes, however, if you are a strong parent, you will not be concerned and roll with the changes. Sometimes it gets so bad that many parents don't even like their kids once they have reached an adult age. If you suddenly realize your growing child has natural personality traits that present a challenge for you, we urge you to be accepting of it. Yes, this can be difficult at times to live with, but the healthiest response is to be accepting and loving toward your children.

You will be put to the test in your parenting experience by a thousand different situations. In many different ways this becomes a test for you and your spouse. Having children is the greatest blessing in your life if you will let it be, because it will make you a better person.

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