9/5/11

4 Ways You Have Not Thought Could Help Your Marriage

By Sarah Scott


Do you envy other couple's marital happiness, especially once you've learned that they have been together for as long as you and your spouse? What do these couples have that you do not have? These couples in blissful and thriving relationship follow these 4 things.

The Importance of Focus

You may not understand that what you focus on is critical to having a blissful and satisfying life. Your thoughts create your feelings and your emotions create techniques on the way to act and behave. What you choose to focus on will change your perception about life. Rather than concentrating on what you do not need to happen in your marriage, try focusing on what you desire instead. Begin by making a thanks journal and write down everything positive about your other half and your relationship each day. Successful couple's chronically focus on on the good in their lives and relationship instead of the bad.

See It From Your Spouse's Viewpoint

Most times when couples argue a good deal , it is due to the fact their trying to prove to their spouse that their point of view is right and their spouse's isn't right. When you're feeling a heated debate brewing, make the effort to see it from your spouse's viewpoint. Even if you do not agree with what they are trying to convey take a second and attempt to see the situation in their shoes. This way, you will have a clearer understanding of where they are coming from, permitting the two of you to discover a better answer to the problem.

Accept and Appreciate Your Partner

Another thing that many marriages suffer is they are not in acceptance and appreciative of their spouse. When I say appreciating, I mean not thanking them for the things they've done (which would also help provide benefits to you). When you appreciate somebody, you aren't putting certain expectations on them but appreciating them for who they may be. Many occasions when we're not accepting our spouse, we set our selves up for disappointments. Your partner is someone with their own dreams, feelings, fears and inabilities. Remember, he or she is their own person also. Sometimes, we forget to share humanity with the individual we're with.

Don't Resist

When things happen to us, it's easy for us to oppose it. When we are resisting something, we often add needless agony. It doesn't mean that you should not feel the emotions you're experiencing, but just let everything that happens..be okay. Do not fight it. Couples who frequently argue, they have a hard time accepting whatever occurred be O.K. This does not mean you should not reject your emotions but try and be more of a "yes" to the situation rather than a "no." You'll quickly realize that resisting a situation takes a lot more of your energy.

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